(Closed) What part of “No Kids” did you miss?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
460 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

No your not over reacting! If your family members are not bringing their children I don’t think special arrangements should be made.

Post # 4
279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Nope, not over reacting as well. “No kids” does not sound like it’s something open to interpretation. Tell her that the cutie needs to get a babysitter or the lot of them need to refrain from attending the wedding.

Post # 5
1079 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’ve said this on a lot of threads and I know this is controversial. If your friend is coming from out of town, what do you expect her to do with a little kid? Leave her with a stranger? If you really don’t want the kid at the wedding, you should suggest a babysitter you know is reliable based on friends recommendations. Or suggest your friend leave her kid with other kids who are having a babysitter. If your friend is local then you can politely suggest she leave her child at home as she would on any other night out with her husband.

Post # 6
121 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I suggest you respond by noting that you respect her decision to include her child in all aspects of her life, but also ask that she respect your decision regarding children (this highlights how inconsiderate it is of her to ignore your wishes, particularly since you respect her viewpoint).  Indicate that you will be sorry not to see her if she cannot make childcare arrangements, but that if she is able to find a babysitter, please feel free to let you know until (insert RSVP date).


Post # 7
3068 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

You are NOT overreacting. Say something like “Due to the alcohol consumption at the wedding, we are not allowing children present”. Of just flat out tell her, “I am sorry but we are not having children at the wedding”.

Post # 8
401 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I recently went to a wedding with kids and it confirmed that a wedding is not for kids..the kids were running all around the place–parents did not supervise them because they were too busy dancing and drinking.

Post # 9
2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011


You’re not overreacting. I would be pissed. If you’ve already made the decision to have no kids and family members aren’t bringing theirs, then there is no way someone else should get special treatment. You’re going to have to stand up to this one unfortunately. It’s just not fair or respectful to you and your Fiance and the rest of the guests.

I would look into local babysitters or see if the hotel they are staying at has recommendations or they’ll have to figure it out if they want to come.

Post # 10
46408 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Don’t make excuses as to why you are not having children at the wedding.

When you start giving reasons, she will come up with exceptions.

Offer to help her find a babysitter if she is not local. Other than that, tell her you will misss her if she is not able to attend without her child.

Post # 11
491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree with those above that you are not unreasonable to expect her to come without her kid, if many other guests are upholding your request, she should be able to manage one night without the child.  It’s very rude of her to think that she is above the rules.  Maybe say that your venue doesn’t allow kids, if she tries to talk you into it.  Stick to your guns!

Post # 12
937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

No kids means no kids. Politely advise her where she can obtain childcare. If she chooses not to, then tell her you will miss having her there, but you understand her decision to stay home with her child.

Post # 13
181 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

tell her that you are sorry if finding a sitter is unconvenient, but children are just not welcome. you hope she can still come. and if she brings her anyway, dont worry about it, if someone mentions the fact that someone elses kid is there, your rebuttal is you know, you informed her it was adults only and she didnt listen. that makes her out to be the bad guy, not you.

Post # 14
1080 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I would be pissed too. No kids means no kids. Tell her that unfortuantly you and your Fiance are having a no kid ceremony and reception, then offer to help her find someone to watch the kid.

Post # 15
384 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I would be beyond pissed. It is your wedding hence you set the rules. And that should be respected by everyone. And I dont see your family being very happy if they were not able to bring their children. It will set off a whole load of problems if you let this slide. So I would be very direct and let them know firmly to respect your wishes and if that does not work for them, then maybe they should rethink their RSVP

Post # 16
377 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think it’s the way this was said that’s a bigger problem – “Of course we WILL be bringing” her, they will “try” to keep her quiet and “let her loose” when no one is looking. This is presuming a lot.

I would politely tell her that no, you’re sorry children aren’t invited (the fact that she told you vs. asking you makes it a little awkward,) and maybe give her the number of a local sitter to drive the point home.

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