- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013 - Rustic mill, historical site
That is all.
I know this has been posted about a zillion times but I was suuuuper clear with everyone and didn’t beat around the bush, so I figured I was safe.
I’m seriously going to strangle my brother the next time I see him. He’s broke, recently separated from his crazy ex-girlfriend, has two kids half the time, and is stuck paying for all HER shit on top of his own. We’re renting him a tux for the wedding so he doesn’t look like a hobo, we’ve given him all kinds of stuff, money, food, furniture, house supplies, all kinds of stuff to help him out. He’s known my wedding is child free for YEARS. I’m not joking. A few months ago we were discussing casually a few things, and he said well, it doesn’t count for him because it’s a family affair and family will want to see his kids. Uh, IDFC, his kids are NOT the exception, in fact, my fh’s brother also has two kids and isn’t bringing them because they’re respectful of our wishes (not that they wanted to bring the kids in the first place, but that’s a detail).
Anyway, my wedding happens to fall on a weekend where he has the kids, so my mother casually mentionned this to him last night and he said, ‘well, then I guess I better buy them some appropriate clothes then’. First of all, if that’s the case then why am *I* paying for his bloody tux? And second of all, the answer is still NO. My mother said ‘You know there are no kids at the wedding, they’re not invited, they don’t have seats or dinners, you can’t bring them” and he replied with “well I’ll just show up with them, there’s not much they’re going to do at that point”
He’s right, I’m not going to make a scene, but FFS, what is so complicated about NO EFFING KIDS????? It’s so rude to even suggest just showing up like that, I thought I put my food down firm enough but clearly not. (I only heard the conversation, I was in the sun room when it happend but my mother gave me a heads up and said I needed to talk to him, and bring it up in a way that doesn’t give him the option to say he’s just bringing them, without me saying flat out that they’re not welcome.) I normally get along great with my brother. He’s grown up a lot in the past 5 or so years, and I respect his decision to leave his moron of an ex-girlfriend even though it has put a huge financial and emotional strain on him, and it take guts to ask for help, and humility to accept it.
Anyway, I’m almost done being long-winded. I’m taking him for his tux next weekend, I was thinking of broaching the subject by saying something like ‘hey, I got your RSVP for just you, are you bringing *girl he’s dating’s name, happens to be his neighbour and babysitter, lol* or is she watching the kids?’
I dunno… *siiiiiigh* what a stupid problem to have >.<