(Closed) What people or parents do you judge?

posted 6 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

Heh.  I’m not a parents so who knows what I will actually be like…

My biggest judgement of parents is the ones who let their kids walk all over them. No, your 16 year old DOES NOT need a Porche because they want one. No, they dont need a BMW when they wreck the Porche. No, your 4 year old doesn’t need their own Ipad, cell phone and flat screen in their room. Seriously, be a parent not their best friend.

My other biggest “judgement” is also parents who buy alcohol for their HS kids. Plenty of people grow up without having keggers every weekend after Friday night football. It was the best when one of the guys I hung out with in HS had his cop older sister buy them booze for a party. No one there was over 17!

If all the parents decided “hey, lets not encourage our minor children to break the law by supplying the drinks” suddenly it would be much harder for them to get it. I lived in a small town and EVERYONE at the school knew whose parents were push overs and bought booze. It was pathedic. There are laws for a reason. I do know if I EVER catch my (as of yet theoretical) kids drinking before they are of age, they will have no car, no phone, no computers, no nothing.  Once they turn 21 they can do as they please. 

The drinking one is a big issue to me because I had a friend who got date raped by a creep when she was passed out drunk and 15. If this other guy’s mom hadn’t bought booze for them and “taken away their keys so they are safe!” she wouldn’t have been passed out on an 18 year old guys floor. Yes, she shouldn’t have been drinking either, but still. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I judge the neighbours for their lack of discipline of their 2 little boys. They are awful – violent, disrespectful (at 4 and 7 y/o) and just little terrors. Parents never follow through with discipline/consequences and always turn a blind eye to their behaviours. We have kids the same age on the other side of us that are just the most polite, well behaved kids. They don’t get away with anything and the parents talk to them like they are adults.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

It’s easy to parent when you don’t have kids. 

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I judge parents who don’t follow through with dicipline. If you tell them something and then don’t follow through how do you ever expect them to listen to you??????

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My husbands parents would buy them a 6 pack of beer, drive them to the party they were to attend, and then pick them up. They did it because there was a condition that the kids would only drink the 6 pack and nothing else. My husband said it worked because he wouldn’t be the drunkest one there, or participate in the chugging of the vodka, or whatever else was available at the parties. So I don’t generally judge those parents.

It bugs me when I see parents ignore their children. For example at parks, or indoor play areas, I see the parents letting their children play, without any supervision really, and the children act up, bully other kids, or are desperatley wanting their parents to watch the ” cool” thing they are about to do, but be completely ignored.

Obviously, negligence, or abuse will always have some type og judgement from me.

I try not to judge other parents about their choices, but in the two cases above, I have found myself doing so.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

Personally, I know that we all judge eachother, but listing all the ways you judge others and wanting people to justify them for you leaves an icky taste in my mouth.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

@abbyful:  well personally, I would judge parents who have a young child crawling around in a house where they are feeding raw meat to their dogs. That is something that I would never think is a good idea. 

And I bet you disagree with that. Which means that not everyone has the same ideas about what is “not a good idea”. I don’t think this thread is going to go anywhere good.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I judge parents who 

  • Let their children talk back to them. At any age. A 3 year old telling you to shut up is not cute, it’s lack of control.
  • Rely on others to watch their child at any social gathering. Sorry, I don’t want to chase your child around the swimming pool because you’re in the corner chatting away and haven’t noticed your toddler leaning over to get a ball from the deep end.
  • Do not raise their own children, but try and act like they do. If you’re learning your kids first word, favorite movie, favorite doll, etc. from someone else- you aren’t spending enough time with your kid and the facebook pictures of you two together don’t fool anyone.
  • Don’t make their children mind. When you say to stop- your children should stop. If not- make them stop.
  • Don’t put sunscreen on babies/toddlers. Guess what, it’s just as sunny at the zoo as it is at the beach! Ugh. 

/rant.

I’m not a parent, so i’m not sure what i’ll be like 🙂

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

@Cash000:  Or you know, don’t let your teenagers go to parties where there will be a bunch of drunk idiots. That solves that issue REAL quick. I refuse to allow someone to justify intentionally allowing their kids to break the law. 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

@abbyful:  no need to get snarky, I know what cleaning is.
And I’ve seen plenty of vets recommend against this practice because of the public safety risk. You don’t know everywhere your dog’s mouth goes. I’m just pointing out that you are probably offending others here who are doing some of these practices that are “not a good idea” in your mind.  And you don’t appear to appreciate being on the other end of my judgement, so maybe others feel the same way. 

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

@hisgoosiegirl:  I would say there is a pretty huge difference in what you feed your dog and letting small children play with firecrackers unattended. 

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