Post # 47
+1 This drives me fucking crazy. Some of it I get. But a lot of the things I hear are either regional (cash bars, dollar dance), expensive/time consuming/etc., or seriously do not matter (addressing invitations).
+10000000 to all of the “Don’t do it!” I get that at work at lot, mostly because I work with all men and most of them are divorced. One guy asked me “what the rush” was (an 18 month engagement after dating for 3.5 years and knowing each other for 2.5 before that is a rush?), because he and his girlfriend had been engaged for NINE YEARS. I mentioned that I wanted to have kids soonish, and he was like, “Oh, well I’m 49 and she’s 40, and we still want to have kids!”
– “You should have [FI’s nephew] as your ring bearer!” No, no kids in the wedding. “But it would be so cute!” NO. NO KIDS IN THE WEDDING. “He would be so adorable in a little tux…” NO KIDS IN THE WEDDING AND MAYBE NO KIDS AT ALL END OF STORY.
– “Are you using [officiant]?” Who? “The pastor who married [FBIL and FSIL].” No, why would we? “Oh, he was great, you should.” Nope, we’re having a civil ceremony, and I have someone chosen who will do exactly what we want. “Are you sure? He did a beautiful ceremony…” YES I AM SURE END OF STORY. I think this was brought up FIVE TIMES in a very short time span.
Post # 48
@Ashley_B: We are not doing a bouquet toss or the garter thing either. And people are horrified by this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Like we want to shoot a puppy, its ridiculous, LOL. My fiance told me to stop telling people shit. They will find out the day of the wedding. And I’m not changing my mind, I don’t want to do it. Cutting these two things out will give me more time to spend with our wedding guests and enjoy our reception, two less things that we have to do and spend 25 miutes taking pictures of. Thank god I’m not the only bride that is cutting this tradition from their reception.
Post # 49
@SpecialSundae: +1 & It will all work out. I am goign to scream if I hear any of those phrases again.
Post # 50
MY PET PEEVE IS WHEN AN AQUINTANCE SEES YOU AND THE FIRST THING THEY ASK IS OH MY GOODNESS IT SEEMS LIKE YOUR HAVING A HUGE WEDDING.. HOW MUCH ARE YOU SPENDING ON IT? THEN THEY FOLLOW UP WITH WELL ITS YOUR WEDDING DO WHAT YOU WANT… (ughhhhhhhhhhhh…) DRIVES ME CRAZY.. ILL SPEND WHAT I WANT UNLESS IM ASKING YOU TO PAY FOR IT DONT QUESTION IT..
Post # 51
This might just be me…but I hate hearing “Wow, you’re so organized!” I only get it from people who see my wedding notebook/binder–so mostly vendors, and my parents (somehow repeatedly from them).
Like, NO SHIT I am organized, someone has to know what the hell is going on in this wedding! Don’t make me whack you over the head with my giant binder.
Post # 52
“Why aren’t you getting married in the temple?” – yes i grew up LDS!
“You are to young”- then I hate being told what ever I get told for complaining about being told I’m to young! In my culture I am not to young and people are shocked we didn’t get married 2 years ago!
“When are you going to start having kids?”
“Are you excited.” Its like nope I said yes cause I think it’ll be the worst thing in the world- duh I’m excited!
Post # 53
“I better be invited!!” is another one…it’s especially annoying when it comes from people I try to pretend I dont see half of the time! Uh, we’re not friends.
Post # 54
I’m tired of “Are you ready?!” or “Are you excited yet?”
Post # 55
Oh this is an awesome thread lol : ) I’m tired of “Oh you’re having a SMALL wedding…isn’t that nice” Really? 90-someting people is small?
Post # 56
Any variation of “the best/most important/biggest day of your life.” No … it’s definitely an important day, but we don’t want to peak on Day One and have everything be downhill from there, thank you very much. I think it’s a mistake to treat a wedding as a culmination. It’s a beginning.
“It’s all about the bride” and “Just remember, it’s your day.” Nope, not all about the bride – about the couple and the joining of two families, and there are a lot of factors that need to be weighed and accommodated. It isn’t – and should not be – all about indulging the bride’s ego.
Post # 57
here are some more:
when’s the wedding?
i’m invited right?
from Fiance, but only said once by him, but same topic brought up by Future Mother-In-Law and FCIL (future cousin in law): oh my mum said (cousin) said she wanted her daughter to be a flower girl. then his mum brought it up, then his cousin. and his cousin said ‘don’t feel obligated’ but same cousin has been upset for years that she didn’t get to be a flower girl/bridesmaid in Future In-Laws wedding, and has kinda held a small grudge ever since. so yeah, no pressure huh? i never even considered flower girls until this was brought up!
Post # 59
@Soon2B_MrsS: I’m starting to get those questions too . I know what you mean!
Ours is a secondtime around wedding /reception and we do have it pretty much planned and working on things , but a couple of friends are almost begging to do the planning or know what all is going on so they can be in on doing it their way( they just had weddings themselves)
I don’t want to tell too many our plans because we have some surprises like the entrance and the money bouquet toss, etc.
Post # 60
“It’s not too late to back out!” This is honestly one that my boss, male boss, has told me no less than three times. Come on, really??
“It’s your day” To me, it’s someone being polite about saying “I don’t like your decision but you can do whatever you want and this is my way of being polite about it” It makes me cringe, because of COURSE it’s our day, and of COURSE we should do what we want, I’m asking your opinion for a reason.
In general, I’m sick of opinions. There are so many opinions flying around, and for a person that generally likes to make everyone happy and be a peacekeeper, I’m being driven nuts at times!!
Post # 61
We are going to the courthouse ALONE. Certain family members (on both sides) have made comments like, “Yeah. They’re getting married. And I don’t even get to be there. They’re being selfish and doing it all alone.” Yes. We have both been married before. We want it to be a day for us. And I just know had we planned a big wedding the second time around, there would have been negative comments about that too.