Post # 77
@SweetandSimple: Oh yeah definitely the “that’s never happened at any wedding I’ve been to”
– anything about ettiquette or the ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ way to do something rubs me the wrong way
– any mention of “your day” or “special day”… *gag*
– You can just do it X way, people do that at weddings all the time, they won’t mind. But if I don’t like that at other people’s weddings, what makes you think I want it at mine?!
Post # 79
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
“Are you excited?”
All I could think as I said yes all poltie and happy-like was: If I weren’t excited about it, I wouldn’t be getting married!
Post # 80
I got really sick of Fiance saying “but we have so much time!” Yes, dear, for what you see as needful, we had plenty of time. For all the things you’re not even aware of, but later came to see that we needed to do to have the kind of wedding we’re having, no, there wasn’t that much time.
Currently, I’m starting to get pretty tired of “Are you excited?” (Yes, but I don’t go through life 24/7 in a haze of excitement about the wedding. I’ve got other stuff to do.) And also “the big day”. Not sure why people have suddenly started saying that, or why it bugs me.
Post # 81
@AmeliaBedelia: I always said NO after the fifth time.
Yep. All of this. No, I’m not having two seperate wedding receptions. Because I’m paying for all of it. You guys can throw me a party though…no? ok then, shut up about it.
I LOVE the “go kill yourself” meme. I die.
Post # 83
“Well at the end of the day, you’ll be married.”
Well um yea… but that doesn’t mean that I don’t care what happens the day of, or not have contigency plans and work everything out to the nth degree “just in case”. It doesn’t mean I don’t want things to look pretty and sound good and for the love of everything holy, no familial politicking.
Yes, I am marrying the man I love; yes, at the end of the day, that’s what’s the most important but by Jove, I’m going to make sure I have something recording-worthy for the lenses because the day itself matters too!!!
Sorry, mini vent 😛
Post # 84
@Pokemon: you better not be getting married before me!
Seriously? People said that? Good grief. I thought it was just a myth that people verbalized that.
Post # 85
@AmeliaBedelia: yeah one was from FIs mate who knew his partner for 2 months before proposing. they have been engaged for shy of 5 years december (when they get married)
another my cousin who has now broken up with her (ex) Fiance
another a guys at works now wife when their wedding was set for 2 months after our engagement
to say a few
Post # 86
I have heard all of these things multiple times. I am tired of them!
Fiance: “Stop stressing yourself out. The wedding’s still over a year away.”
AND I’M RESEARCHING ALL THE VENDORS AND MAKING ALL THE PHONE CALLS AND SENDING ALL THE E-MAILS AND ORGANIZING ALL THE MEETINGS/TOURS/ETC. MYSELF. Shut up and let me stress! SOMEONE needs to be on top of these things!
Aunt: “You can’t (insert thing she doesn’t like here). That’s tacky/wrong/weird/etc.”
Just… please, shut up. You had your wedding. THIS ONE IS MINE. GO AWAY!
Aunt: “You should check out (venue that is way out of our price range, which she knows because she works for these venues’ exclusive caterer and knows full well what my budget is!).”
Aunt/Mom/Sisters/Everyone!: “But why aren’t you doing the Chicken Dance/Hokey Pokey/Macarena/Electric Slide/other “traditional” wedding song?!”
Yeah, we hate that kind of stuff. I worked in a banquet hall for two years. I have heard all I can take of the Chicken Dance. And don’t even get me started on “Brown-Eyed Girl.” WHY is that the most popular wedding song EVER? I heard it at EVERY SINGLE WEDDING I worked in those two years. I will gouge out my eardrums if I hear it played at my wedding.
Aunt/Mom: “But why aren’t you doing the bouquet/garter toss?!”
Because we don’t want to. Deal.
Mom: “But why aren’t you doing the dollar dance?”
FI’s mom: “I keep thinking about that lovely dress you tried on. Just saying. It was a great dress. I can’t stop thinking about it!”
Okay, so YOU go buy it and wear it. Every inch of that thing was covered in bling. Gorgeous? Yes. Me? No. Please stop saying this. I know you’re just itching to put the deposit down on it. I wonder if you’ll be so generous when I pick the OTHER dress – you know, the one you hated? Mmhmm.
Post # 87
This is a great thread!! Now to vent…
“I’m invited right?” Or” You better invite me”. – I get annoyed on both ends. Do people realize how expensive a wedding is? You really shouldn’t invite yourself. And then I feel bad if I can’t afford to invite them! But my Aunt also said something along those lines. Really, my Aunt? We’re a huge family and everything is a big event and we’re always together. Why on earth would she think she needed to say that?
Also, “Finally!” Or “What took him so long”? We’ve been together 9 years, but he’s been in school 7 out of those 9 years and I just started being able to think about marriage with my career about 2 years ago. Not to mention I turned him down once so he hates that question!!
Post # 88
@Soon2B_MrsS: That is exactly how I feel!!
Post # 89
the #1 most hated comment – why dont you just have the preacher go to your house and do it there– um cuz we’re already married so theres no preacher and we;re already married whats the point the point to the big fancy wedding was I WANTED MY WEDDING!!!
o and when are the babies coming….. never if you dont stop asking we;re young let us have our fun just because we’re married does NOT mean Im becoming a baby factory right off the bat.
And im tired of the “whats the point of a wedding with no alcohol and open bar???” seriously???? we wanted a location with no alchol and i am not paying for you to get drunk if thats all it means to you dont come!
Post # 90
When we were first in the beginning of planning people would say “Oh, but you have SO much time, why the rush to get things done?” and NOW I’m 110% thankful that I started early because right now its 5 weeks away and I still feel like there will be things left undone or ideas not able to be pulled off.
When all is said and done, just do things the way you feel is best, make you and your Fiance happy and that is all that should matter.
Post # 91
“aren’t you SO excited”, “are you nervous?”, “wow, you are young” (got that one more in the beginning), “I bet the planning is SO much fun”, etc… it’s getting old… at least there’s only one more week of it… then I’m sure the really awesomely annoying questions will come “are you moving?”, “when do you guys want kids?”, etc.