(Closed) What point does it become acceptable to uninvite someone?

posted 3 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2021 - City, State

I’d still invite him personally, they’re a couple (fellow UK bee so i get it :-))

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I think just don’t worry about it, unless you’re having a tiny wedding you’ll hardly notice him on the day. Has she even indicated that he is coming? Maybe he won’t! 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Cannot uninvite someone except for the most extreme reasons

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

When you say reception, do you mean evening reception or the day reception as well? If it’s evening I would just let it go but if you’re paying the all day cost it’s more of an issue… I think when it comes to sending the actual invitation it is fair to say directly to your friend “what’s the deal with this guy?”

If she says they’re still together, I think you should invite him. She may say actually things have cooled. I wouldn’t uninvite over FB – I’d be pissed off too but I don’t think it’s enough of a reason to not invite a friend’s partner who has had a save the date, which would be a pretty major etiquette breach.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

Evening reception then just invite him. Sounds like he won’t come anyway and she may not even show him the invite.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

I would just leave it. The FB thing doesn’t likely mean anything (loads of people I know have cut their friends lists recently as it just gets out of hand otherwise and you end with hundreds of people you barely know/don’t talk to), and so what if she doesn’t talk about him? Plus he’s only invited to the evening, and the per head costs for the evening are generally speaking minimal. 

If you uninvite him it could cause major issues between you and your friend, and in this instance I just don’t think it’s worth the risk. The only time you should uninvite someone IMPO is if you want nothing more to do with that person and anyone invited with them. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

busybee200717 :  If her and your friend are still dating – I’d keep the peace and still invite him. 

We’re (sorta) uninviting one couple from our wedding. One of my sisters (ex?) friends. She’s been a bitch to my sister, and her and her daughter have been very rude and hurtful to my niece (who is THREE!).. so I don’t want her at my wedding. We sent her a save the date, but she won’t be getting an invitation. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i’d still invite him since they’re a couple. if he’s really cutting people out, then he won’t show up anyway so no loss.

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