(Closed) What prompted you to have input in picking your e-ring?

posted 5 years ago in Rings
  • poll: What prompted you to have input in picking your e-ring?
    He asked me directly to get involved. : (87 votes)
    33 %
    We have combined finances so any purchase that large needs to be a shared decision. : (14 votes)
    5 %
    I had very specific tastes/hopes for my ring : (97 votes)
    37 %
    I had cultural or family requirements that impacted what the ring should look like. : (2 votes)
    1 %
    There was a family stone/ring available on my side that he didn't know about. : (4 votes)
    2 %
    I wanted something outside what would be considered a traditional e-ring so he'd never have guessed. : (33 votes)
    13 %
    He proposed without a ring so we picked as an engaged couple. : (15 votes)
    6 %
    Other : (12 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    226 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    He knows I do not usually like popular styles of anything and I am very picky about jewelery. When he asked he used a napkin ring because it was the only thing closeby. lol Not very romantic, but it gave me the chance to pick out what I wanted.

    Post # 5
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    2167 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @nocleverbeepun:  We were at Costco one day and we stopped at the jewellery cases and Fiance pointed out a few  e-rings and asked if I liked any of them. I didn’t…but it did open the field for me to tell him exactly what I DO like in a ring. He listened. 

    Post # 6
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    604 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Before we got engaged, I went to a couple of jewelers with a girlfriend just to check out rings and see styles I liked.  I told Fiance about it and he asked what stores we went to and who we talked to there so I gave him the business cards for the places.  He doesn’t know much about jewelry so he was happy to have help.  A couple of months later, he proposed with one of the rings I’d tried on that day! 

    Post # 7
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    360 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I didn’t see my exact reason on there, but I voted for the one cloests, which was I wanted something non-traditional.

    My actual reason is (quite bluntly)…the ring will be on MY finger until the day I die, so I need to LOVE it and also be comfortable with it. That said, I didn’t pick out my exact ring and the whole proposal situation was a total shock to me. We’ve been together for 8 years so the topic of marriage has come up many times and we had just always had other priorities first. Once we decided we were just about ready I told him what I wanted, he did the rest and knocked it out of the park. I just told him what I like– sapphire center stones (blue ceylond cushion cut) with diamond side stone, yellow gold (not too specific right,? haha) and he had it custom made. 

     

    Post # 8
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    2070 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    We actually had a misunderstanding where I asked if we could go shopping for rings together about 6 months before the proposal. He thought I’d asked to choose my own; I thought I’d asked to go shopping to look for styles I liked and then he could pick one. So he proposed without a ring. In a way I wish I’d made him choose one for me after the proposal but I was too excited not to get involved at that point. We went to a jewellers’ to look at a selection I’d asked the jeweller to get out for me beforehand and we narrowed it down to our favourite 2 together. Then I made the final decision.

    It did mean that I got a completely surprise proposal, even after 8 1/2 years together! Because we hadn’t been ring shopping I was not expecting it at all.

    Post # 9
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    9674 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    I wanted a specific ring, and I think Fiance was relieved at not having to search for a ring and pick one himself!

    Post # 10
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    72 posts
    Worker bee

    @Jacqui90:  Same here. I actually just started throwing around a “when we get engaged this is the ring I want,” after a couple months of being “serious” and several months of being “involved.” I knew enough about him by then to be completely comfortable with the idea of someday marrying him, even if neither of us were ready to be engaged just then. He’s non-specifically forgetful and eventually I just sent I him instructions in an email which he has saved for the day, but as far as I know he’s allowing me free reign to get the stones, and meet with someone to have them set/talk about a warranty. It seems very untraditional but it’s not. We’re a D/s couple and he’s decided it won’t be until at least one year of living together so while he’s deciding because he’s “the boss” it also happens to be a requirement that makes total sense to me. I definitely wouldn’t want to get married before living together and am sorta kinda hoping for a very long engagement.

    Post # 11
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    227 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I tried on every different style and size of ring and never found one that felt “me”.. Then I tried on a ring that was 4x our budget and was in love. It was half price but the timing just wasn’t right. When the time was right, it was back to full price. I just had to have something like it, and so with his blessing we had in custom made in the US for a whole lot cheaper than an Aussie chain store =)

    Post # 12
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    4656 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    He knew I had odd tastes but didn’t know quite what… he asked me what I liked pretty directly a few months before proposing. I showed him a few examples of things I liked, he had something special made for me… and it turned out to be the BEST possible thing!

    Post # 13
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    17 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2014 - Manor House

    My SO and I are currently getting my ring made. He asked me exactly what I want as he knows I am very picky with the jewellery I wear.

    Post # 14
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    1814 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

    I came home one day, he sat my down on the couch with his arm around me, and said “I’d like to know what styles you like in a ring” (coincidentally the same day he sent “just because” roses to my work – though denies that they were related!)

    It was like a mini-proposal and I got teary eyed. 🙂 He even hesitated before saying the words “a ring” – I think he was nervous because we hadn’t started seriously talking about marriage yet, but had been living together for 2 years and things were going really well.

    Post # 15
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    850 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I had a suprise proposal with a borrowed ring. We then went out and chose one together after we were engaged. I’d have been happy if he had chosen for me, but his Mum thought I should have a say in what style I wanted and choosing one together as an engaged couple was lots of fun.

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    He knew that that I had very particular tastes so he thought it’d be easier if he let me do the choosing. That being said, I still appreciated his opinions and input. Also, he knew that, since I didn’t want any diamonds in my ring, that I would be better suited to researching appropriate alternatives and finding the best deals.

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