(Closed) What qualities do you look for in a man?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
456 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Definitely intelligence! All the usual, good sense of humor, kind, loving, fun to be with, well-groomed (is that a "usual" one?)etc. But the one that’s a little different- I wanted a masculine man. In high school I always hung out with/dated really nerdy guys that total wimps. Nothing wrong with nerds (my FH is working in computer programming, tho I guess that’s geek, not nerd), I’M a nerd, but I just really wanted someone who was a GUY. Who liked sports and was tough and made me feel like no one could ever hurt me if he was around, cause he’d kick their ass. I found a man who’s all of those things, but as sweet and gentle as can be, so he’s perfect!

Post # 4
2434 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Sense of humor, intelligence, trustworthiness.  My hubby has a lot more great qualities, but I think these are the main ones I couldn’t go without.

Post # 5
5823 posts
Bee Keeper

Compassion, Sweetness, and Sincerity/Honesty, in that order.  My Fiance has all of these in spades!!  But one of his qualities that wasn’t on my list that I adore?  Stubborness!!  Which is funny because you wouldn’t think it was endearing…but the way he is stubborn is just sweet.  I can’t explain it.  We laugh because if we ever chose to go head to head on something, it would be like the Dr. Suess book with the Zax!  LOL!

Post # 6
2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

My husband is smart, funny, generous, hard-working, and a very good sport.  All of that makes him a lot of fun to be with when things are going great, and a wonderful partner day-to-day.  After all, things don’t always go well – and sometimes life is really difficult.  For me, it’s important to have somebody that I can count on either way.

Post # 7
626 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I like the rough edge… I came from a great family but we had some.. issues..  Now, it’s important for me to be with someone who can relate and understand these things. He fits the bill plus some.  My life seems charmed compared to some of the stuff he has dealt with.

Also, intelligence, handyness, compassion, and honesty.  He fits the bill for all. Though we had wo work on honesty in the begining.  It was  hard for him at first because of how he was raised, but he is always trying to improve himself, and has.  

Post # 8
2205 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

my three: godliness, intelligence, humor. I’m marrying a seminary student who is one of the funniest guys I know.  He spends hours of his day parsing greek verbs (yeah, it’s intense) and keeps up on current events.  He’s also a brilliant writer.  Hard working was definitely a runner-up quality, and I couldn’t ask for more from him! (Though there were definitely some unexpected qualities!)

Post # 9
2641 posts
Sugar bee

 Responsible, faithful, intelligent, strong, funny, classy, talented, helpful, romantic, caring father, committed….  (Ok cut that in half, for what I was expecting.  The list you see is what I actually got.  What can I say?  I overshot my mark.  He’s fantastic.

Post # 10
1276 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

For me Intelligence, Kindness, Generosity, and Humor are a must.  But I think if I’m honest I have to add Athleticism as well.  I guess that might seem a bit superficial at first, but I myself am (or at least was prior to an injury) an extremely active person and it’s hard to date someone who can’t keep up with you physically, I’ve tried.  I guess I’m lucky, though, that in a way my FH isn’t so picky about this.  Since my injury I can’t really do much at all…it’s been agonizing for me personally and also b/c I’ve worried that he’ll eventually get bored with me.  He assures me all the time that it doesn’t matter to him, and I’m starting to believe him:)  It really makes me reexamine myself and my priorities though, to consider how I’d handle being in his shoes.

Post # 11
91 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

1. sense of humor

2. NOT having "typical" man behavior like aggression, drinking til drunk, loudness, etc

3. intelligence – can hold a decent conversation

4. polite and respectful to everyone  – not just me

5. patient and kind

Post # 12
101 posts
Blushing bee

my first one is honesty.  If a man can’t be honest with me, I don’t waste my time.  Other than that intelligence is important and a sense of humor.  I need someone that can keep up with me (brain wise) and make me laugh…

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