(Closed) what r u including in ur wedding invitations?(mexican brides)

posted 8 years ago in Latino
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Laughing@pokerlove:

 

I second your opinionLaughing that our Mexican families do not know what a RSVP card is!  I laughed when I read your post all we are interested in is what time is the weddding but most importantly when is the comida and baile or more proper Mexicans when is the “cena/ baile”

My suggestion for the list of the padrinos y Madrinas is use the RSVP card and list the names of the couples that made your day possible. I know that I would not want my wedding invitation with all that on it it appears to be more like a 15 invitation.

However, it is up to you you do not have to necessary utilize the RSVP card how about using another card and inserting it inside the invitation it still looks classy.

I mean you can also if you like ask the dJ to thank the following couples by name or you can to …however these were a couple of my suggestions

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

I’m not Mexican but girl, Africans do that too. I’ve told my mother, YOU ARE NOT INVITING ANYONE WITH WORD OF MOUTH. Wait for your invites, if you don’t get them, you are not coming. I don’t know why some of my folks act this way. They won’t send the invites but if it’s the wedding of their American co-workers, they know how to use the RSVP!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

In my family, it is more common to put the names in a program used at the reception.  Also, they would be announced at the reception.  I have never seen them in the invitation, not even for a Quince (at least not in my Quincenera).  I ended up not having padrinos/madrinas for my wedding so I didn’t have to worry about where to put them….but if I did have them, I would put them in a program, not the invite.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

ack! i second beatriz’s suggestion of including it on a separate insert (if it must be in the invitation). you could also maybe list it in the programs or something. that way they’re acknowledged, but not necesarilly highlighted on the invitation itself, lol.

as for us, we aren’t listing our padrinos anywhere (gasp! i know!). instead, we’re just inviting them to the rehearsal dinner and verbally thanking them for their support (i.e. “we thank those of you who have helped contribute to making our day beautiful/special/exactly what we envisioned/a dream come true/etc.” or something short, sweet, and to the point like that. they’ll (hopefully) know we’re talking about them and their contributions).

in all honesty, i know they should be thanked and appreciated, but i personally don’t want to stress tooo much that they’ve contributed financially. for one thing, my fiance and i are very much so capable of paying for our own wedding, and while we really do very greatly appreciate our family’s help, i don’t want to give some aunts/uncles special treatment just because they have more money than others and are able to help. the way i see it, nobody is more important than the other just because they forked over cash. just because somebody gave us money doesn’t mean they love us more, and those that didn’t/couldn’t offer to contribute don’t love us any less. that’s how i feel about the whole padrino thing. it shouldn’t have to be on display for all of your guests to see who gave money and who didn’t. i think it should just be something personal between you and your fiance and your padrinos, so that they know they’re appreciated.

that’s how i explained it to my fiance and he bought into it, so no printing in the invitations. score! 😀

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@nona49:

I’m surprise I grew up close to the Mexican border and right now I live about 4 hours away and the truly Mexican Mexican families include all the padrinos and madrinas on the quince invitation.

For my wedding my fiance and I are paying for everything however as a token of our appreciation so that “not all the centros de mesa “center pieces” are gone before we show upLaughing Yes, in my family and most Latina families their is a tendency to grab the centerpiece and claim it as your own we are placing a small round tag on the base of the centerpiece with the names of the my family members and his that helped us set up and do the arrangements .

 

 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@bRooklynRocks:

I second that , word of mouth invitations the more the merrier that is my case I love the atmosphere of people and music and I know that my abuelitas and tias will make enough rice and beans to last all night long in case their are late comers that arrive after 10pm because believe me they show upLaughing

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

oh man, that’s rough. you could always print them on an insert, and then “forget” to put the inserts in the invites before sending them, lol. although, that might create a full on war. families can be vicious!

somebody somewhere else here on the ‘bee said that instead of including the names in the invitations, they are going to print them on a nice full size sheet of pretty paper and frame it and place it somewhere at the reception. maybe like at the guestbook table or something. would your fiance go for that?

in my opinion, this day is about you and your fiance. it may sound rude (or fea, lol), but i don’t think anybody else should be glorified in the invitation but you two. it isn’t the padrinos’ special day, it’s your guys’.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@pokerlove:

I hate the typical get the nakpin holder and decorate it , si so Mexicana but I want an elegant wedding with table clothes not plasticos one (no offense to anyone) but even for birthdays I used table cloths. 

I will keep  all the rest Mexican “keeping it real” with barbacoa , rice, beans, aguas frescas and possibly a taco man.

But the decor will be like the rich ones, hopefully no one gets offend when they are not allowed to take the centerpieces but like you mention they cost a fortuna and all the sweat and tears tha went into them.

I’ll have the dj do my dirty job of annocing that the centerpieces are for family members and to check the round table tag on them if the name is yours than the centerpiece is yours.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@beatriz  ya, i just did whatever my mother suggested.  she was born in mexico and grew up on the texas border.  my father was born in texas and grew up on the border too…..so i figured they were doing the traditional thing.  Maybe not ?

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@beatriz: I wish I were going to your wedding…or that I had aunts to make us barbacoa and beans!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@nona49: I spoke with my mom and she told me it is up to the person if they wanted to include the padrinos in the invitations however in Mexico es costumbre darle gracias atraves de la invitacion.

But , girl let me tell you when God blesses me with children , I will not include the padrinos if I do I will put an insert and have the DJ announce it. I expect that my future hubby and I and my siblings will assist me. However, I have two nephews but as soon as the little girl is born the saving will begin !

 

@nmsoonerbride:  Thank you, it quite a drive Laughing this weekend I attended a wedding and they had birria and the only negative factor was the mess that the caldo made. However by the time food is served it will be night time and plus my linens are olive green so the stain will not show up that bad as using white linens. Will post pictures of what I want my aguas frescas station to look like

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@nona49: I failed to mention that my mother is from Jalisco so las costumbres son differente para cada region de Mexico.

I would have gone the same route as you, the invitation to be solely on the individual and no one else

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