(Closed) What readings did you choose?

posted 9 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Lol, yeah we actually considered the Song of Solomon reading as well, but felt a little uncomfortable having my SIL read it…  Eventually we ended up with the reading from the Book of Tobit (the – may we live together to a happy old age – one).  It starts out kinda slow, but we liked the overall message of the reading which is "We’re getting married because of love, not lust.  We’re taking each other in marriage understanding that this is a lifetime commitment."  I also liked the last line which is something like "May we live together to a happy old age."  Also, the entire reading is about partnership and togetherness; Tobias doesn’t really refer to just himself but instead the couple together. 

You also might want to look at specific words in the readings, though, because some of them are actually more beautiful once you look at details.  I think the "second creation story" also would have worked for us because I like that the "woman is made from man" part is balanced with the "man will leave his family and cling to his wife" part.  Once again, the last line ("the two will become one flesh") meant a lot more to me than the so-called "degrading" verse in it.

Overall, my best advice is to read each one carefully and multiple times.  On the surface all of them seem somewhat misogynistic, but by looking deeper, you might actually be able to find one that really speaks to you and your Fi.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I originally picked one from Song of songs because it’s very romantic. However, after my Fiance reviewed the options (he’s not religious), he wanted Tobit 8:5-7. I orignally thought it’s just some couple from the OT praying together, wuz so interesting about that? My Fiance said that he espeically likes the "growing old together". I was then convinced and then decided to go with that.

I don’t particularly think any of them is degrading toward woman. You may have some negative connotation of these readings based on what you’ve heard. I might have interpreted them negatively too if I hadn’t talked to my celebrant, who gave me a total new perspective on those OT readings and now I really appreciate all of them. Have u talked to ur Fiance, close family/friends or a person well-versed in bibilical readings? They may give u a new inspiration as to which readings to choose.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2009

try the book of Ruth

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We chose Tobit 8:5-7 as well.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m doing the Tobit one about praying together and living to an old age also. Some of the others bother me. I know there are modern explanations, but still some of those readings I did not want to hear at my wedding.  We are doing the 1 Cornithians reading for the second, ie. Love is patient, Love is kind. We are doing the Wedding at Cana for a gospel.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I took the little program from Mass on May 17th because the readings appealed to the wedding planner/bride in me!

They can be found here:
http://www.usccb.org/nab/051709.shtml

The Second Reading and the Gospel seemed appropriate to me.

Hope this helps!

 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

AnamCara — When I was at Church two weeks ago I thought the SAME thing during the Gospel. It really is wonderful 🙂

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Stupid question ladies… Where is Tobit 8:5-7 found? My Fiance and I looked in our bibles and Book of Tobit is not listed or Tobias… We are curious as to where this is located. Is it in one of the books of the OT or NT?

Thanks in advance!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I found the Tobit reading in our Together for Life Booklet. I believe the book of Tobit is one of the books found only in a Catholic Bible.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Like kayakgirl said, the book of Tobit is in the Apocrypha (a section of five books separate from the OT or NT), only included in Catholic bibles.  You can order these Bibles from online or from Catholic bookstores.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

OK, thanks Kayakgirl & Mrs. Spring. I have been Catholic all my life and have never heard of Apocrypha. I learn something new everyday.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Lol, RoddyBride.  I am a new convert, but the Apocrypha actually only came up in my theology classes at college, not my RCIA or conversion courses.  So random…  🙂

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Good to know Mrs. Spring… Now I don’t feel so evil!  I swear I don’t even remember them mentioning this in Catholic school and I went for 12 years.

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