(Closed) What Really Matters At A Wedding.

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
9198 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I’m going to withhold my judgement on the 1 million dollar price tag and just say that this is a lovely sentiment.  And 30k is quite a nice budget – nothing to feel jealous about, honestly.

Post # 4
64 posts
Worker bee

Thats really awesome. I think sometimes we all need a reminder that what is really important is that both people are there for the long haul, really have respect and love for each other and the can celebrate this next step with people they love. A chocoalte fountain with doves flying out might be nice but really being 100% present and willing in that huge moment is really what matters for the marriage. I woke up on the morning of my first wedding just thinking none of this matters ..flowers, cake…crazy family be damned….as long as by the end of the day I am married to my best friend I dont care what else happens.

Great thread!


Post # 5
2894 posts
Sugar bee

OP, you have close to ten times my budget for your wedding. And what we’re planning to do, we believe will be beautiful and represent us well. Anybody would be thrown away by a million dollar wedding. It’s just not representative at all of the average weddings, so comparing any other wedding to it is, IMO, completely pointless. And it surely doesn’t make one better than the other. What is different is how money is perceived. To me, spending 1 million over a wedding is … let’s keep it respectful … outrageous. I see a thousand things I could do with that money, not only for me but for other people who need it more than me. Sure it’s impressive as a guest, sure it must have been beautiful, but 30K is already more than enough to have an extravagant wedding. 


Post # 6
3130 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@MsMonkey:  great post :-)! Very well written and a great sentiment.

 my sister and brother both had large extravagant weddings ( tho nowhere near 1 mil!!) , my budget is nearly 50K smaller than theirs. 

and your experience holds true for me too- they were phenominal weddings but not because of the food/venue/ect, but the love πŸ™‚

Post # 7
8472 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

A friend of mine is getting married and she insists on having this absolutely extravagant wedding and it just baffles my mind. She feels the need to out-do every other wedding she’s been to, and I constantly tell her that she’s being ridiculous. But if course she doesn’t want to listen, and frankly I don’t care. 

OP, your budget is exactly the budget my mom was comfortable with. My wedding ended up costing $22k and to this day, people still tell me how excellent my wedding was. And to tell ya the truth, for as excellent as people say it was, I’d still go back and do a small Destination Wedding just to have avoided all the stress I went through in planning. 

Post # 9
3402 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@MsMonkey:  Just remember, her million seems lavish & amazing to you compared to your 30k, but others of us have had to make it work within the single digit thousands (mine was 6k). Still others even go to the courthouse without family or friends due to lack of budget.

Wealth & extravagance truly are very relative terms..

Post # 10
1228 posts
Bumble bee

The wedding sounds amazing because they were so happy! I love weddings like that. But can I just say, ONE MILLION??? Unless she was Kim Kardashian, I feel like that’s a tad excessive.. I will be spending maybe 8 grand on my wedding and even that seems excessive to me personally.. I’d rather donate my money to an animal shelter and save a bunch of puppies or cancer research than have one big crazy million dollar day.

Post # 13
5575 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@lolot:  ……+1

Post # 14
11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

We spent right around $10k for ours, and people said that it was the best wedding that they’d ever been to. We’ve been to weddings that we KNOW cost more than ours and ours still blew them out of the water.

Post # 15
2278 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

To quote the Beatles – “All you need is love” πŸ™‚

Post # 16
774 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Dalhousie Castle

This is waaaay off the point of the post, but do you have any photos that would be okay to share. I would love to see the ice bar and the snow! 

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