- 8 years ago
This is probably going to be long.
I have issues with my mom. I love her and we get along pretty well, but I still have issues with her… or she has the issues and I have trouble dealing with them. However you look at it, my mother has a ridiculous train of thought. She is about 250 pounds, but she is EXTREMELY prejudiced against big women. Growing up, I was never made to feel beautiful or anything. Hence, my horribly low self esteem and shyness. My sister has always been thin, so my mother has placed her on a pedestal. My sister weighs about 120 pounds and is nearly 6 ft. tall. When she told my mom that she’d gone from 117 to 120, my mom said, “Eww, you don’t want to be fat and ugly [fat automatically equals ugly in my mother’s mind], do you? Go workout!” Of course, my sister’s self-esteem is through the roof. So much so that she’s very narcissitic. She is also prejudiced against fat people. When she and I go out to lunch together, she dictates what I order and monitors how much I eat. I don’t blame her for her behavior, because it was how she was raised, and she IS getting better and more mature lately. But, my mom isn’t changing.
The other day on FB my sister wrote something about “ugly girls” liking our brother. A woman wrote, “(My sister), don’t you want your brother to have a good girl that treats him nice? Looks are not all that matters.” My mom saw that and wrote, “(My sister), we have plenty of time to worry about whether or not your brother meets a “nice” girl. He is too handsome and young to settle for fat and ugly girls.” I was completely floored when I read that. My mom has no filter on FB and is constantly writing rude things to both my FB friends and my sister’s, but that took the cake!
Like my sister, my mom has brainwashed my brother into believing that heavier women are not capable of being beautiful and are not worthy of love. My brother refuses to even look at a girl who has a bit of meat on her bones. He won’t consider it. Not to say he can’t meet a great, thin girl (because there are awesome women of all sizes), but he is absolutely not ever going to consider a woman that is even slightly overweight… just because she’s overweight. My mom has said, “You better not break my heart and bring home some fat chick!” So, I feel like he’d be ashamed to bring home a larger girl.
Like I said, my mom is NOT thin, by any means. She used to be, but three kids/bad eating habits later it caught up to her. She is so prejudiced against overweight/obsese people (women particularly), though. I just don’t understand it. I think a lot of her issue is that she feels that she needs to prove to everyone that she isn’t jealous of skinny people. But, she takes it overboard. I really don’t think she has the right to be so critical of overweight women because she is obese, herself! That’s like the pot calling the kettle black, right?