(Closed) What % RSVP No?

posted 12 years ago in Logistics
Post # 17
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

MoreShoesPlease  – you have to call them and follow up.  Or make someone else call them and follow.

So anyone else who’s already married/ near the date have their %s of RSVPed nos? 

 

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

i think i read this on Brides.com or the Knot…either way, i read that its 50% for out of towners. that seemed high to me, btu it depends on what relation the people are to you that you are inviting form otu of town, i guess.

i’m also stuck with a slew of "courtesy invites". i’m wondering if i’m going to send them all one bc clearly that racks up my stationary costs, and i’m doing them myself so i dont want to waste time either….

 

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Hi Ladies,

I wanted to revive this board. Can some of the mrs. bees let us know how many actually showed up that were invited? We are working on our guest list now and I am torn between venues.

Thanks! 

 

 

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2007

I had 35% ‘No’ to the reception.  Of the close to 400 guests, 2/3 were out-of-towners.  I also had a destination ceremony to friends from the opposite coast chose to fly to the Destination Wedding instead of the reception.

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I have read 10 to 20% will RSVP as No.  Emilie, you crack me up – although I must admit I also estimated probability of acceptance (in three bins) and color coded the guest list accordingly, much to the amusement of my Fiance.  Since sending our Save-The-Date Cards, we have had nice notes of congratulations from several people we thought would no way come to the wedding – and while that’s not an indication that they will, it does make me unsure of my predictive system. I also figured that people who had to do some serious travel were less likely to come, but have had phone calls from several of them to say they wouldn’t miss it for the world.

We are actually just holding the guest list to the max our venue can comfortably accomodate, and then figuring that if we get a high refusal rate we can invite a few more local friends, or just have less of a crowd.  Our total guest list thus far is 160.

Post # 22
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2008

I’m sending out my invitations on Friday, so I’ll keep you posted.  I’m anticipating that 20% will not come.

Post # 23
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2008

I dont think you can ever really guess. My sister had all but ONE person show up to her wedding. All but about 10  guests lived within an hour of the site. So the 20% rule doesn’t apply to her at all.

Our guest list is about 40% from out of state and Future Mother-In-Law said that we should invite FI’s cousins even though he has never met some of them. I am needing 41 no’s. Future Mother-In-Law has almost promised me that a majority of her family won’t attend. Does it make me nervous??? Heck yes. Freaked out in fact. I just hope she is right. But don’t ever count on a certain number of no’s-even though that is what I am doing.

Post # 24
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Newbee

I’m all for not inviting more than you can seat in your venue or afford to pay for, otherwise you may end up in a tough situation later. 

I think the % for yes and no depend on a few factors:

1. How well you know each person you’re inviting

2. How big your wedding is (see #1) — if you’re having a small wedding, you’re probably inviting only people who are very close, so they’re more likely to come. If you’re having a huge wedding, you’re likely to get more declines because you’re inviting people you’re less close to.

3. How many people have to travel to attend your wedding. In-town guests are more likely to say yes, even if they don’t know you as well. If someone lives far away, then they’re less likely to attend.

4. Are there other friends or relatives who are having weddings near your wedding? If you’re getting married at a popular time of year, people may have to decline due to conflicting weddings.

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Thanks ladies.  We have about 50% out of town people on our list.  So, we are just not sure how to handle.  I would hate to book my second choice and all those first cousins don’t show!!! 

Post # 26
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I am wondering what to do if I get NOs late and my date on my response cards has passed.  Example, I intend to send ours out EARLY with the hopes I might get a few NOs and be able to invite more, invites for our Sept 13th wedding will go out in July to be returned by August 11th.  I am horrified that people might say yes and then not show up.  I mean I understand if there is an emergency but do people just not show?  That seems so rude.  Currently there are NONE of my coworkers on my A list.  I have approximately 10 people I would like to invite to the wedding from my work (I’ve only been at this job for about 10 months)

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

i agree that you can guess to your hearts content but you never know who will say "yes"! we have an "estimated" column on our excel sheet (super helpful altho nerdy) and i have already heard some people who i guessed as no’s are booking hotel rms based on our stds! so i think it all depends on your guest list- are they people who wouldnt miss it for the world, or random folks your parents know that wont want the bother? i think a lot of ppl have that 20% number in their heads & my Future Mother-In-Law uses that "but half the people wont even come!" excuse too for her list increases. but if you have a max, just be very careful about over-inviting! (at first we were only concerned about minimums but now our guest list went up and we actually have to ask, is there a MAX?)

Post # 28
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

what is it with FMILs and their "half won’t come!!" refrain?  I hear it all the time, too.  It drives me batty.  80% of our invite list is Out of Town, so I estimate that around 30 -40% won’t come, BUT — like others have said — my cousin and his wife (who I never ever thought would come b/c (a) I haven’t seen him in 5 years and (b) they have 4 small kids and we are having an adult reception and lastly (c) they live 4 hours away) have booked a hotel room in our block.  I was shocked.  So, you just never know.

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

my Future Mother-In-Law actually had the nerve to say that she thought maybe 15 people (out of the 80 she invited) would come to our Out of Town wedding. come on…

Post # 30
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2020

Because I know this is an ongoing discussion among brides-to-be, I thought I’d share this formula I found on another blog with fellow Bees. I like it way better than most because 95% of my guests are Out of Town, so I just can’t imagine that the standard "20%" is very accurate when everyone is traveling between 6 to 16 hours to be here.

Add up each of your totals based on the categories below – then multiply by the given percentage. Add all together, and that should give you a rough estimate of number attending. (HOPEFULLY)! 

Local guests (including family) = 85%

Out of town family = 75%

Out of town friends = half

Wedding party = 100%

 

Post # 31
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

We invited about 300 people and about 150 showed up. Most of our families are spread around everywhere so we knew that a majority of them wouldn’t be able to make it. Of our families, just our immediate family members traveled to our wedding. A majority of our friends are also in the LE field so we knew only a few of them would be able to get off and the rest would have to work. I don’t think you can rely on a percentage because of factors like traveling and work issues. We were pretty much able to guess what guests most likely wouldn’t come because they lived in other states but we still sent out an invitation anyway because it would’ve been rude not to.

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