Post # 32
We were supposed to have a 120 person wedding but my parents and fiancé keep adding people on and now we’ve invited close to 200. I have no idea how it’s going to work out because we have reception seating for about 140 max. My parents are paying for it so I haven’t stopped them, my parents keep saying that not everyone will come. I don’t believe this because when we started planning this they said probably only 3 people from my mom’s side will come (she’s the middle of 9 children, so there’s a lot), and now all but 1 of them are coming. I really am excited about seeing my long distance family, I’m just making the point that people will come who your parents claimed would not.
At this point we’re only had about 4 no rsvps compared to around 60 for yes (invites went out 2 weeks ago). And my dad invited 2 more friends this week. We also have someone coming from China, so don’t believe that most out of towners will not come. Right now most of my rsvps for yes live over 400 miles away. I’m happy and not complaining, just a word of caution for those still planning the guest list.
Post # 33
I think this completely depends on who you are inviting. While 10% regrets may be a good guess if most or all of your guests are local, we are inviting a high percentage of people who are a long drive or plane flight away. In this economy, the decline rate for a wedding like mine is going to be a lot higher.
Right now, here are our numbers:
Officially Accept: 132
Officially Decline: 54
Still need to hear from: 52
Some of the delinquent RSVPers are most likely going to come, so our best guess is that we will have 160 attend out of 238 invited, which is a 33% decline rate.
If you are having a hard time figuring it out, I’d recommend making a spreadsheet for your guest list, with a column that indicates the number invited in each party, and a separate column for the number you expect will attend from each party. Make conservative guesses about who you think will come, erring on the side of YES so that you don’t end up underestimating. When we did this, we guessed we’d have about 180 guests, and its looking like it’ll end up below that (which will be nice on the budget.)
Hope that helps…
Post # 34
Over half of our list was out of state. Fifty percent came. More than 10% who responded “yes” did not actually show up.
Post # 35
All I can say is wow! This makes me nervous. My fiancee and I were never able to fully agree on who we were and weren’t inviting, even though we had many conversations about it where we did agree. Then he went home for a weekend out west and suddenly there are many more invitees.
We are getting married and having the reception in my parents backyard, garden-patio. Mind you this is a city garden-patio, so much smaller than if it were in the suburbs. We felt we could comfortably fit 30-40 people and suddenly we have about 80 invited but I’m not really sure because I still don’t have his addresses, and that’s more than half!
I’m freaking out now because my invites are done but not yet printed so maybe I can change the location but the wedding is in August! Can I find something with just 3 months to spare? Or are we just going to be really, really cozy?!?
I so wish we had just gone to the city clerk and had a nice dinner with our parents, the funny thing is he didn’t want to and now he would rather and thinks we still can. I’m like aaahhh, we can’t, we’ve already sent out half the STD’s!