(Closed) What rude things did friends/family say during wedding planning?

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Post # 61
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

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Sukii:  i said “so if all the bm’s are in a light pastel Aqua, and my theme is bright soft summer colors and you go find a harsh flashy bright red dress just cause it’s the ONLY dress that flatters your body, you think that’s ok??” She flat out said “yes. I don’t care. I’m not going to wear a dress that doesn’t suit my body just cause I have to look for a dress in the color you want!!” 

I bit my tongue at that point. Shook my head and changed the subject. Only cause she’s ridiculously sensitive and cries over everything That doesn’t go her way, and I didn’t feel like dealing with it. 

But, all the bm’s have ordered their dresses and moh hasn’t even started looking. I’ll be ready for that battle when the shopping starts. I’m not letting this one slide!! LOL 

Post # 62
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Blushing bee

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soymilk:  pleeeaaassseeee keep us posted on how that goes. I love reading about the drama. Obvs don’t want the drama to overshadow your day though 😁

Post # 63
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Beach

When I told my grandma I was engaged, she said “well that’s nice, you want your first one to be nice”. As in, my first wedding/marriage. She thinks divorce is hereditary apparently b/c my dad is divorced and remarried.

Post # 64
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Sugar bee

Future Sister-In-Law has been married 7 months and was 8 months preg at the time of our engagement party.

She acted so f**king WEIRD at our engagement party. A good friend of mine (who Future Sister-In-Law has never met) congratulated me and asked to see my ring when Future Sister-In-Law was standing next to me so I put my hand out to show him and she put her hand out to show hers as well, as if she didn’t like ME having anyone’s attention, and then she jokinly said “Ohh, Oooops” and giggled and pulled her hand away. I laughed so hard, I’m no attention whore, I just had to laugh at her behaviour. It was ridiculous.

She tried to make sure everyone at the party saw that I was a ‘bad host’ as she sat right near a plate of food as soon as I placed it on the table and made a big deal out of eating a dry cracker with a look of disdain on her face because I had only put soft cheeses out (which she couldn’t eat since she’s preg). I came back not even 2mins later with another plate and threw it down near her when I saw her face and said “Here you can eat this”. Silly bitch…

She ended up going inside and sulking for hours because none of my family wanted a bar of her attention whore ways at OUR party.

I can’t even list all the things she’s tried to criticise since we got engaged…

Oh, my fave comment from her was when she referred to my engagement ring as a ‘knuckle duster’. Rude bitch LOL.

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Post # 65
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2003

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JessieFay13:  for what it is worth my husband and I got engaged June 21 and were married December 6. We have been married 12 years. So a year and three months sounds like plenty of time to me! Good luck. 

Post # 66
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Buzzing bee

Oh I also forgot that when I called my mother to tell her that we got engaged she said I know he asked me, I saw your ring before you…. I responded with well he asked me the most important question, to marry him and now that ring is on my finger. Awkward. Lol 

Post # 67
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

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jkm13:  Wow. Please keep up updated on HER! Would you like one of my BMs? Apparently I’m not demanding enough because I told them they could wear whatever shoes they want with their dress and do their hair however they like!

 

I have another comment to add to the list… we’re looking at Photographers and, as we want a second shooter, it isn’t cheap. Our favourite is just under £2500 for her full package inc. Engagement shoot, album, digital gallery, unrestricted hours and USB. This works out at $3730 ish for all you American Bees. We haven’t seen anyone cheaper that we’ve liked.

SIL turns to me today and tells me this is a ridiculous amount of money for my mum to pay, and that HER brother only paid £600 ($900) for theirs and that included an album. I looked at their photographer and they LOOK like they didn’t charge a lot. So much soft focus. Ugh. 

Post # 68
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Where to begin? Lol

We got engaged August 2015 so when its all said and done we’ll be engaged almost 2 years.  I’ve gotten so many rude comments about having a long engagement.  My mom said “that’s good, plenty of time to really think things through” like I’m going to change my mind? Thanks mom.  My Fiance was telling someone at his work that the wedding isn’t until summer 2017 and their reaction was “oh so its one of THOSE engagements”.  Wtf? We have plenty of reasons to have a long engagement and being unsure about each other is not one of them.  

We have a date set and a deposit on a venue so I’m not sure why our engagement isn’t considered serious by these people.

Post # 69
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Magnolia House

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TeamByerly2016:  Yea someone asked me if I was going to wear white since its my second wedding and all…Um yea That is so wierd because I don’t recall what I wore at my first wedding…hmmm..oh yea I have never been married before! Really people! I mean yes I just turned 40 (Gasp!) and I have an 18 year old but no I did not marry his father….oh I am actually wearing ivory because it looked better with my skin tone

But I get those same things, oh are you having a big wedding, aren’t you a little old for that. Well no I am not old for that and besides SO has 7 aunts who all have 5 or 6 kids who he is very close with so the majority of my wedding is family. 

And Lord help them all when they see me walk down the aisle in my ballgown! Hah (Shoot I’m 25 in my head!)

Post # 70
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Magnolia House

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stephisaur:  My Future Sister-In-Law is just like yours. How much are you spending on photographer? I have a friend that is really good and he will give me a discount, I have a friend who is a DJ you should soo use him he is really good. Where do you know these people from, they all work with her and do this on the side. Saw her friends pictures, it looks like i did it. He basically just has everyone stand next to eachother and say cheese. No posing, no tilt your head to the side you have 3 chins etc….

Yeah um no thanks. She has tried to hire everyone for me, photographer, dj, caterer, makeup artist…ugh I can’t wait for May to get here and I can move on from her suggestions. (She even had people call me about it, yeah no i got this, thanks!)

Post # 71
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

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kellijo13:  At least you only have until May – I have until 2017 *sob*

I think she’s getting bitter because my Mum organised her wedding to my Brother. At the time, she was happy with this, but now her one brother is married and the other is getting married in March, I think she regrets not having more say.

Which is fine but… not my problem! Someone also asked why I didn’t ask my Best Friend to do the photos as she is a Wedding Photographer. Ummmm because I’m not a crappy friend? She’s Bridesmaid or Best Man and I would NEVER ask it of her!

Post # 72
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2016

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kellijo13:  Oh how I love the assumption that it is a second marraige due to age.  I had a sales woman in a dress shop autmatically assume I was looking for a vow renewal.  We are never too old for big weddings and you are going to rock that ball gown!!

Post # 73
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016

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mrsyeti:  While I DON’T think it was okay for the other bride to have talked to you like that, I also don’t think it was okay to imply that this other bride isn’t doing her best to host her guests either. You mentioned she was having a Thursday wedding, which is also something people *sometimes* do if they’re on a very tight budget. Weddings are expensive and money can be a very stressful, sore spot for some people. You don’t know what she and her fiance are working with, and honestly, they’re probably doing the best they can. 

Again, it doesn’t excuse her reaction to you, but it sounds like she was defensive because hell, sometimes talking or indirectly mentioning money makes people defensive, and I can understand that.

Post # 74
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

My Fiance is not close with his mother. However, we had obviously decided that before we post anything online, we need to tell everyone close to us. I insisted that we really should tell his mother so she doesn’t find out on facebook. So throughout the day we made all our necessary phone calls, and he tried to call her multiple times on both her cellphone and house phone. No answer all day. So by the end of the day we were just ready to make our online announcement. I insisted that he at least text her and tell her first. So he texted her saying something along the lines of “I tried calling you a few times to tell you, but I just wanted to let you know that we got engaged!” Her response: “The phone only rang once each time.” That was it.

Post # 75
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Magnolia House

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TeamByerly2016:  Exactly! One of the venue I went to look at the lady immediately said, “Oh I thought I was meeting the bride, not the mother of the bride.” I said well I am the bride, it was a beautiful place but I couldn’t do it, not after that. 

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