(Closed) What rude things did friends/family say during wedding planning?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 106
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

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sashbo:  My cousin did the same thing! When I told her I was engaged she said “Please tell me I’m a bridesmaid and don’t pick an a-line dress because I look terrible in them”. We haven’t been close since we were 18. And even back then our relationship was rocky.

Post # 107
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

FI’s grandmother exclaimed out of no where, “We can’t get excited for your wedding yet, because we’ve been invited to another wedding before yours.” Uhh, we weren’t even talking about our wedding, and Fiance is her only grandchild who will ever get married. The other wedding is someone she was surprised they even got invited to because she hardly knows them.. but whatever.

Post # 108
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

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kaycost:  That’s actually a funny comment to me. I think it’s just grandma logic, and not her trying to be rude or demean you guys. I’m sorry it offended you though

Post # 109
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Blushing bee

Not really rude, but less than a day after getting engaged, I got a ton of questions about the date. 

I mean, hi! I wasn’t born knowing my venue and date 😀

Post # 110
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

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pearlinapod:  I wouldn’t think anything of it (and probably would have laughed) if it was my grandmom, but if you knew his grandmother, you would know she was trying to be demeaning. But I wasn’t offended. I’m learning not to let anything his family says bother me haha

Post # 111
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

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mrshesstobe:  I got that too! We did pick a tentative date pretty quickly, but really that’s the first thing poeple ask and i’ts like “hello? can we jsut engoy being engaged?”

Post # 112
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2017

 

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pearlinapod:  I literally just ran into her at a birthday party (even more awkward, it was the MOH’s birthday party). we were standing in a big group of people, we’d just gotten engaged and people were doing the whole “congratulations” thing and checking out the ring, and she just piped up “have you picked your party yet? I so hope I’m a bridesmaid”. I literally just choked on my drink and waited for a massive hole to swallow me into the Earth. what made it so much worse is that my Maid/Matron of Honor, another bridesmaid and both their partners, and the MOH’s good friends made up this group, so they all knew that the answer was “no…”

 

also you’d think that if you were a bridesmaid, I’d maybe ask you to be a bridesmaid?

Post # 113
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Sugar Beekeeper

 

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pearlinapod:  

 

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mrshesstobe:  

Yes, but engaged is engaged to be married, not just some  isolated state . I don’t  think for a moment  people expect a venue and date , just  a “well we thought the spring of 2017 or thereabouts”  or something   .

It is not in any way rude to  ask such a question . Rude is following it up with “are you planning to lose weight by then? ” 

Post # 114
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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ahartig:  probably because he realized she was a b****!

 

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Post # 115
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

From my sister: “What do you mean you’re not having a bar? It’s not a wedding without a bar! I’ll just smuggle a flask in.” Uh, no, you’re not. We’re having a dry wedding because neither of us drink, and if you smuggle a flask in, I will kill you. We’d get fined for that because the liquor laws here in Florida are insane.

Post # 116
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

My Future Mother-In-Law asked if they needed to dress up for our wedding. We are getting married at the santa barbara courthouse followed by an extremely nice dinner at a restaurant/tasting room. 

Post # 117
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2016

It absolutely crazy to me what some ppl have said to me over this wedding lol! We are doing a small 50 person destination wedding in St Thomas and my mom has referred to it as “just a big party on an island” because I have decided that I don’t want to wear a veil. Sooooo it’s not a wedding if I don’t wear one?! She also likes to add random ppl to my guest list.

After I told her invitations have been sent..

Mom: “Oh did you send one to your godmother”

Me: “I have a godmother?!”

Mom: “Oh yea you’ve never met her but she lives at…” 

Really??

I’ve also had several ppl invite themselves to my wedding. Coworker: “Make sure you put my invitation in the mail because I’m retiring soon and you won’t be able to bring it to me at work.” Huh??

Now that invitations have gone out it has gotten even more interesting…

Guest: “Yea I saw that you only reserved 2 seats for me but I’m still bringing my ENTIRE family. Don’t worry they won’t all eat tho” 

No that’s not how this works!! 

Sigh….

Post # 118
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Helper bee

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reee:  Same here, everything my Mother-In-Law said about my wedding was rude. And she had something to say about every damn thing.

Post # 119
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Well, during wedding planning my mother kept telling me things I needed to do (she wasn’t paying for any of the wedding, and I never asked her for help or advice during the planning). On the morning of my wedding she told me my hair looked bad and when I got mad at her for that, she left (canceling on the makeup artist and hair stylist I booked) because she “just had so much going on right now”

Post # 120
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

“Why is she even getting married- IS SHE PREGNANT?”

“I never saw bubblyx getting married.”

Said all of my great aunts 😂😂 whatever bro.

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