Post # 1
We all know the ‘rules’ of etiquette (er, or maybe some of us don’t!) – which ones really drive you crazy?
I personally HATE writing thank you cards. I hate it. I’ve always hated it. I’m terrible at it. 🙁 I wish that rule were never invented, haha. Never once has receiving a thank you card in any way made my life better. I usually forget within five minutes that I even got it!
Post # 3
The plus one rule, which is not a hard and fast rule granted but it’s effing annoying. Like, I’m sorry, yeah you have a Boyfriend or Best Friend and you just moved in together but I’ve never met him and I’d rather invite an actual FRIEND over your Boyfriend or Best Friend when you know a billion people that will be at the wedding. LAME.
Post # 4
After my wedding, I have to say I hate the rule of not including your registry information in your invitations. Everyone ended up calling us to ask anyway! This is one rule I think is ok to COMPLETELY ignore!
Post # 5
I was just going to mention the registry! Its so stupid everyone is constantly asking you anyway!
Post # 6
invite all your family even if they spent their whole life criticizing what you do… it drive me crazy… when i became a foster kid no one in my family offer to keep me so i spent 4 years of my life moving form foster house to foster house without knowing anything about them. the now that im an adult i have to invite them even though i dont want to know anything about them…. but you know how etiquette rules are… so i will ignored them
Post # 7
I hate registries. all registries. I don’t get why it’s more appropriate for me to tell everyone what to get me than for them to just write me a check so I can use it as I see fit, (or get me a gift of their chosing). I never buy gifts from the registry and always just end up giving cash for weddings.
Post # 8
hand writing the envelopes rule – that would be my most annoying because i see educated, confident, strong women wringing their hands in dispair at the thought of not having hand written envelopes. they are envelopes, they usually end up in the bin at some point so pick a calligraphy font and print them is my motto
edit: oh and i agree with the above registry post also – i have no issue with the info being on the invite or included with the invite. i know i have to buy a gift so let me get something the person wants/likes or cash – just tell me what you want and im happy
Post # 9
i like thank you notes and the no registry thing – i think it promotes good will between people! Less about “this is the list of things we want” but more like, “well, if you’d LIKE to get us a gift, we’re registered at Toys R Us”.
I would get rid of a lot of the formalities that people confuse with etiquette.. like bride’s side, groom’s side, everyone must do X, Y, Z, it’s a wedding! etc.
Post # 10
– Second envelope on wedding invitations. Why is it included? To make it take longer to open it so that one can appreciate the overpriced piece of paper?
– Mr and Mrs. HisName
Post # 11
I hate writing thank you notes too DDW! I know why they should be written and that it’s customary, but I don’t care! I don’t want to waste my time writing them! Although, because I feel obligated to write them and I do write them, it really f’ing pisses me off when I don’t get one from someone I have given a gift to. Lol.
Post # 12
I don’t like the “rule” that you have to NOT sleep with your Fiance the night before the wedding. I know there are certain things you’re not SUPPOSED to do, but tradition’s have died down so much these days. You’re not SUPPOSED to live with your Fiance before you get married, but most of us do anyway! I can do what I want, thank you! 🙂
Post # 13
I really hate the proper way to address people on invitations. We just wrote out Bob and Jane Smith and we heard some people were slightly offended (the older people). Sorry, but I wasn’t about to figure out how to address all these people properly. It was a somewhat informal wedding anyway (reflected by our totally non-traditional invitations). I thought people would get that. Oh well.
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country
Size of bridal party dictated by size of wedding. I know people don’t really follow this one anyway so it’s kind of a moot point, but the rule is 1 bridesmaid to every 50 guests (I have NO idea where I remember hearing this from but it always stuck with me). This made me feel like i had to have a really small wedding party (I ended up having 4 BMs) but now that it’s all over I wish I really would have just included all my girlfriends that I wanted to, which would have stretched the BMs to 7. I was just so worried how 7 BMs would look at such a small wedding… but who the heck cares?
Post # 15
@penguin: I have never heard of that rule?! That is a dumb rule though, you can have as many people in your bridal party as you want!! So, what, are you supposed to only have 2 bridesmaids for your 100 guest list & leave a sister or a best friend out?! PSH!
Post # 16
That I have to invite family I’ve never met!!