- 6 years ago
- Wedding: February 2014
So I never knew there was so much ‘etiquette’ surrounding weddings until I found WB. I get the common sense stuff like sending a thank you for gifts, but there are a lot of other rules that I just think are… well, stupid.
Here is a list (so far) of the rules that I am apparently breaking.
1. Inside envelope – I don’t know if this is truly etiquette or just what a lot of people do, but I have never understood this. What exactly is the point of an inner envelope? I can’t say I even know what it would look like… I’m picturing an envelope inside another envelope. So… we’re skipping this.
2. Hand address/calligraphy the addresses on outer envelope – I’m going to be inviting over 150 people so no… I will not be handwriting all the envelopes or paying someone to do calligraphy for it. I am just going to print on them using my good buddy Mail Merge. At least that’s a step above sticking labels on! (not that that’s bad)
3. No handwriting whatsoever on the invites – I am going to be doing an RSVP insert (with the information for where/how to RSVP) and on it will be a line for me to fill in X amount of guests, and then I will write in the names just to avoid confusion. I am doing this to personalize each invite with the number of people invited instead of just trusting that they read the envelope and know that only the adults are invited, for example. It’s not like I’m scratching messy notes all over the invite!
4. Include an RSVP card with postage – Nope, this would add probably $200 more to our invite cost (which is only $200, but I still consider that $200 wasted) since everyone now has email or at the very least, internet access. I am including my phone number, email and our website to give guests plenty of options for how to RSVP back.
5. Rehearsal dinner – Again, I don’t know if this is truly etiquette or just a common thing, but I don’t really see the point. We will probably be spending the night before doing some decorating. So maybe we’ll order pizza for our helpers (if we need any), but that would be it at the most.
6. Open bar – This would EASILY get out of control. Inviting 150 people, many of whom can drink quite a bit, would be insanely expensive and unnecessary (in my opinion). I wanted to just do a straight cash bar (somewhat common where we live) but my fiancé thinks it’s kind of tacky so he wants to pay for at least some of the drinks. I figure drink tickets are the best option since then we have a set limit, whereas a loonie or toonie bar is still unlimited as the amount ordered and we don’t know what that could end up costing.
7. Everyone over 18 gets their own invite – I don’t feel like making extra invites to invite the adult children of a family, whether they live at home or not. In these cases, I’m just addressing invites to “The Smith Family” and then filling in whatever number of seats reserved.
8. Proper titles for names – I have read quite a few posts about people asking how they should write the invites, Mr. & Mrs. John Smith, Mr. & Mrs. John and Jane Smith, Mrs. first, blablabla etc. So I’m not even going to deal with it and just say “John and Jane Smith”. Simply, easy and to the point!
What about you ladies – what rules have you chosen to break? Or which ones are you breaking unknowingly!