Post # 1
- Wedding: Rocky Mountains-May 2017
Ok so my mom isn’t know for being the most supportive person when it comes to body images and what have you.
Anywho I showed her a mermaid type dress that I LOVE and she’s like “huh, we’ll have to get padding for your hips” and when I ask what she means she just looks at me and says I don’t have the shape for those dresses which honestly sucks hearing. She’s always told me I’m shaped like a rectangle and I have no curves and blah blah blah. And while I’m sure people use padding to change their shape (such as push up bras or padded pants), I’ve never been a fan of (as I like to phrase it) falsifying my records :p
So I’m attaching 2 photos one in normal clothes and one in a bathing suit and I want everyone’s honest opinion (though please don’t tear me apart)
Also I apologize for the arms and legs (they suck)
Post # 2
You totally have the shape. You have boobs, a small waist and hips bigger than your waist. You’d look smoking!
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2016 - Cherry Orchard
Please don’t be so hard on yourself! Your arms and legs do NOT suck. No matter what–your body is there to get you through life and to things you love doing. Any body is a good body.
Post # 4
It looks like you are naturally apple/rectangle shaped. (As far as I know, those are the same basic thing, just depends on how much weight you are carrying.) I am the same shape (which is annoying, because it is supposedly less naturally healthy!) and I looked bangin’ in mermaid dresses, LOL.
Tell your mom to go suck a lemon and try on whatever dress you like! I ended up wearing an A-line-ish/ballgown-ish dress, but that was just because I liked it the most.
Post # 5
You have a great body – your mom is a bit delusional and she’s rubbed off on you with your need to call out your arms and legs. If nothing else, look at the numbers for your bust-waist-hip measurements. The bottom line is, though, you can wear whatever makes you feel good. Rock it!
Post # 6
Don’t apologize for your body!
Your shape looks a lot like mine- I consider myself an apple. I hold weight in my stomach, mainly- I tend to not gain in the thighs, butt or boobs. I think you can totally pull off a mermaid! The problem with the app,e shape is a lot of clothing guides tend to equate it with being plus sized, which is not always the case- Kate Upton is an apple too! So sometimes the advice is geared towards looking slimmer/hiding your belly when you don’t necessarily have a belly to hide- you just have a straighter shape and slimmer hips/butt.
If you’re worried about the mermaid you could always try a trumpet shape- it’s fitted then flared, but less extreme.
Post # 7
WHAT?! You have a tiny waist and bigger hips, that’s the PERFECT shape for a mermaid. That’s ridiculous to me. There are no pics of you from the side, so I don’t know how big your butt is, but even if it’s not huge, it doens’t mattter in those dresses. The way they hug your figure, they make everyone’s butt look fabulous from the side. The main issue with mermaid dresses–for me–is whether you have a good waist-hips ratio, and yours is PERFECT, in my opinion. Honestly, based on this picture and how great your body is, it sounds like your mom is jealous. That’s what I would say if it was any other woman saying these things to you. Do NOT go dress shopping with her.
Post # 8
I don’t want to be insensitive here. But is your mom blind? Or otherwise visually impaired? Your body is fantastic and you can totally rock a mermaid.
Generally speaking, any body shape can wear any dress shape. You just have to find the right dress for YOU.
I tried on every silhouette there is, and there were ball gowns I loved and ball gowns I hated. Mermaids I loved and mermaids I hated. It’s really a dress by dress basis.
Post # 9
- Wedding: Rocky Mountains-May 2017
Thank you so much everyone! My mom has always had body image issues and even as a child her dad made her go on a diet because she was chubby. Her and all her sisters have horrible self esteem and I think it’s caused her to not know how to be positive about anyone. She’s also super judgemental, but that’s a whole other story.
It’s nice hearing positive things so again, thank you everyone 🙂
Post # 10
You look great!! You would look amazing in a mermaid style dress! She’ll think differently when she sees you in one.
Post # 11
- Wedding: February 2016 - Church by the beach,
From the photo I would say slightly bottom heavy rectangle because theres not quite enough obvious curves to be pear. The general rule for pear or hourglass is more than 10in difference between hips and waist. I disagree you don’t really have a defined waist but mostly quite a flat looking stomach and you have beautiful legs and your figure is still lovely. You don’t seem to typically have the ideal figure for a mermaid but there are all different mermaid dresses try on some maybe a corseted mermaid would work. Try other styles too along with other styles as well because you may prefer a different dress style. I don’t feel like your mum was trying to be mean because she wasn’t lying just maybe being insensitive personally I prefer to be told the truth straight than have someone just lie to not offend me.
Post # 12
My mom is brutally “honest,” too. So I guess I might get SOME of that trait from her. So believe me when I say: 1) your arms/legs do NOT suck, 2) you could certainly rock a mermaid.
Post # 13
Yep! I agree with so many of the other posters- you have a great body! I think a mermaid dress would be super flattering.
Post # 14
You look great! But it’s true you don’t have an hourglass placed waist. So don’t try to force your body to make an hourglass shape. That would probably look awkward on you. Other than that – I think you’ll be able to rock all sorts of silhouettes!
Try to keep an open mind when you first go dress shopping. Try on lots of different shapes. Try not to pin all your hopes on one dress. The worst could happen – you may have to admit that your mom’s right – it’s not the one for you. But there might be other mermaids that do flatter you. You’ll start to get a feel for what works for you as you try on more styles. Good luck! (Ps – maybe don’t bring your mom!)
Post # 15
Please don’t take your mom dress shopping with you. Do you have a close sister, friend, or your MOH? Take that person… then latter take your mom so she has the “experience”.