(Closed) What shaped/influenced your wedding expectations?

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

My expectations are based upon who we are as individuals and as a couple. I honestly couldn’t care less about what’s popular and what’s not and it seems I don’t really care about certain forms of etiquette (which I realized after joining WB). And I don’t have expectations for other weddings, either. The only things I’ve pulled away from weddings I’ve been to is what I thought didn’t work or wouldn’t work for us (things like driving long distances between the ceremony and reception venues, a huge wedding party, inviting family we don’t even know, etc.)

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@VegasSukie:  My expectations of how people would respond to us being engaged and getting married were low and I wasn’t disappointed. We were together five years so people expected it and didn’t offer much excitement. My parents are the most interested, but since they are disabled, it difficult to go places and have them help out. FI’s family…well, his Dad is awful (I’ve posted about all that here) and some of his family hasn’t even returned his initial phone call telling them we’re engaged and it’s been two months. And friends, including those in the bridal party, barely talk about it. Plus, 90% of the people who will be involved the day of the wedding are all out of state, so I never expected outings of any sort.

Because of our family dynamics, I never expected anything. But, I’m the type to set the bar low – that way, if something good happens, my expectations have been exceeded.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

My expectations came from the WE TV series “Bridezillas.”

I kid, I kid. I’ve been greatly influenced by other weddings I have been to. I also get a ton of ideas off of blogs and other photographer’s websites.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@VegasSukie:  I honestly never thought I would get married and I expected not to. I was my parents caregiver since I was 16-years-old and didn’t want to subject someone to my lifestyle, since it was by no means average and was hard. So, I was just thrilled to find someone who wanted to be in my life and took the good with the bad right from the start (FI met my Dad for the first time in the hospital, for crying out loud!). So, being able to have a wedding and marriage is enough for me. I do wish more people expressed and would show happiness, instead of indifference, but it is what it is. Fiance holds out hope that more people will become interested closer to the wedding. Most are taking the approach of “well, it’s not for nearly a year, so…”.

I do hope some of your dreams come true. But, as my Mom says, “everything happens for a reason,” so maybe how things are going are for some bigger reason. Smile

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Mainly from attending other weddings as I grew up.  My expectations were then furthered (aka stunted) by the amount (aka lack) of money we have to put into it and the amount (aka lack) of people’s interest in it.  lol

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@VegasSukie:  TRUTH! When Bridezilla’s first aired (I’m talking OLD SCHOOL episodes) the brides were not crazy and they had these gorgeous weddings. Now it’s just a hot ass mess of a show!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

lol, maybe we need a meetup of just all of us on this thread.  Or to invite each of us to each others’ weddings.  Or a GIRLS TRIP!!!  Woo-hoo!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My slightly-older sister got married two years ago, so I basically expected everything to be exactly the same as that! But it has turned out that my process has actually been a lot easier than hers — no battles with the parents over the guest list, since my wedding is a LOT smaller, no battles between MOB and MOG (and boy did those rage through my sister’s entire engagement. My mom and the groom’s mom used to be good friends, and now they barely speak!), and I think my mom is more excited to see ME get married than she was to see her first daughter get married! I think it’s just because I’m more easygoing though, so I let my mom make a lot of the decisions. The more I let people put their fingers in the pie, the more excited they get … with the downside being, of course, that there are some elements of this wedding that have seriously gotten away from me. But … oh well!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@VegasSukie:  That’s a fantastic idea!!!  I’ve gotta start booking some flights and requesting some time off asap!  lol

 

@PinkFlemingo:  I’m in the opposite situation.  My older sister ran off and had a very small Destination Wedding and nobody complained because you either had to suck it up and deal with it or not go.  FI and I decided to do a Destination Wedding that’s in a spot that’s easy for everyone to get to, so they all have opinions and want to invite others, etc.  My sister keeps nagging me that she did it the best way and I should do the same, but we don’t want to exclude certain people that are important to us who can’t travel too far.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@MadameTussaud:  Yeah, I really lucked out that my sister was willing to take the brunt of the battles!!! She also had a much larger budget (my folks contributed the same to both, but her Mother-In-Law practically matched what my folks gave), which of course means you can do more, which means there are more things to have opinions about! Mine has been so easy in comparison. “What flowers do you want?” “The cheapest kind.” 🙂

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