(Closed) What shared parental leave looks like

posted 5 years ago in Parenting
Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I realize I’m going to be the minority here but Why should people get paid to stay home when they have a child? They chose to have the child, hopefully they can afford it and have savings to take the time off. Doesn’t make sense to me that getting knocked up gets you free time off while people who choose to say child free don’t get that time. Use your vacation, your sick days, the days that EVERYONE gets. Of course, I also disagree with all the tax rebates, etc. if anything I think we should go the way of China and people should be taxed for having more than 2 kids.

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

My work gives me paid 12 weeks. They totally don’t have to do that as we are a very small company and they don’t even have to do FMLA. I’m extremely fortunate to work for a family oriented company. My husband gets 6 weeks paid as well. We are very lucky!

Post # 35
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

brlabrat:  Overlap. We really want him home focusing on us the first few weeks. My husband also works from home most days. And my schedule is kinda of flexible (without being flexible… lol). I work in surgery, so I really average maybe 3 days a week. My step mother will help with his “core hours” at home and days when I’m in surgery. 

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My work pays 2 weeks before the EDD and 10 weeks after. Plus Ill have almost 3 weeks of vacation time and a couple sick days to tack onto the end. Darling Husband gets 0 paid weeks of paternity leave. Lame. He is going to take off 2 weeks and use his vacation time, then work from home for an additional week so he can be there for moral support after my mom leaves!

Post # 37
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758 posts
Busy bee

Another Canadian bee here!

I feel super fortunate to live in Canada where we get the 12 months and can split it. Our jobs don’t have to continue paying us our salary, but the government does provide a certain percentage of your salary (up to a maximum salary). 

That being said, I saw the same Buzzfeed article and definitely wished we got that extra time off! I totally can’t picture going back to work when my child is still so young!

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Haha, I was wondering when this was going to come up here! I’m Swedish and we’ve even got a term for it ๐Ÿ™‚ we call them lattepappor, which means (cafe) latte dads, and you see them around having coffee in groups with their kids. 

Post # 40
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Blushing bee

We’re very fortunate in that my Darling Husband is a teacher and baby will be born late June/early July, so we’ll both get a couple months off work with the baby (I’m Canadian, so I benefit from the previously mentioned year off). We’re not splitting the time because Darling Husband is American and can’t qualify, so I’m taking the full amount, and he’ll get the time in the summer when he’s off.  I guess it depends on your point of view as to whether it’s a good thing or not, but it’s definitely beneficial to women who want to take some time off for baby, because of our program it’s just the thing you do, so there’s no stigma associated with taking the time off. Though, I do feel like even though men are entitled to take a certain amount of time in parental leave, there is a stigma associated with it still in Canada, too. It’s just not done. Women take the full year. I’ve only met one couple who split it and that was due to the fact that the dad was going to get laid off anyways, and he got serious flack for it from his coworkers and buddies, which is so unfortunate.

 

Post # 41
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

brlabrat:  haha, that’s what my Fiance said! He’s not Swedish and we currenrly don’t live in Sweden,  but I’ve been very clear from the start that I want to have children in Sweden. So he basically said that as long as I can buy him his dream car he’ll be a stay at home dad ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 42
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2015

2monthweddingplanner:  I have no words “free time off” 

 

Here we have the right for 14 weeks or 14 months if both partners decide to stay home. But my Fiance and I are both doctors so its not like we can leave everything and stay at home for 14 months, we have patients, follow ups we need to do plus emergencies. 

Unpaid maternity leave is up to 3 years i think, 2-4 weeks of maternity leave sounds archaic to me. 

Post # 43
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Helper bee

2monthweddingplanner:  it isn’t quite “free time off” as here in Canada the time off is paid by government regulated Employment Insurance. The only way you qualify is if you have continuously paid into Employment Insurance on your payroll deductions, which is taxed. Employment Insurance also covers leave for disability, certain types of job loss like lay offs, etc, so people are more than willing to have deductions because you never know when you will need it. There are sometimes people who get upset because they won’t have children, or can’t, and will not use the benefit but more recognize it’s a valuable part of our society. Also, no one is getting rich off of it. We only get 55% of our salary and there is a maximum that can be paid out, which is not very much, $534 weekly. I am not pregnant yet, I hope to be next year, but Fiance and I have already discussed how to cut back.

Post # 44
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My husband was able to spend several months with our little son because of the nature of his job (we are in the US, entertainment industry). It was wonderful having him home with me to help parent and I feel like he was able to really bond with our son. I feel for the dads who don’t have that opportunity. 

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