(Closed) What should I ask my OB/GYN at my 1st appt after a m/c?

posted 6 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
5109 posts
Bee Keeper

@ms.charming:  So sorry for your loss =( I was in the exact same frame of mind when I went in for my appointment for my miscarriage. All I could think to say was “When can I try again?” The rest was tears and hugs.

Is this your first appointment with this OB/GYN or does he/she already know your history? The reason I ask is you could write down your history in advance, that way you don’t have to spend much time thinking on the spot. Provide number of previous pregnancies/abortions/miscarriages, GYN history (abnormal paps if any, endo, PCOS, etc) length of time TTC, average cycle length, date bleeding started, heaviness, etc.

Definitely ask if he/she thinks you need an ultrasound, with you abdominal discomfort. I had one for prolonged bleeding – she said I did not need one for pain, but my history may have been different. Ask if you should “test out” your hCG levels, either by blood or with urine pregnancy tests. Ask if you would benefit from a baby aspirin a day… Or if there are any other tips/strategies/supplements to prevent miscarriage based on your person history.

Again I am so sorry for your loss =( I too have been through it; nothing can really describe the amount of pain you’re in right now.

Post # 4
868 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@ms.charming:  I’m so sorry for your loss.  I totally know that feeling of benig numb- I got goosebumps reading your post.  I agree with @ChuckNorris: that IF YOU’RE INTERESTED, the main question to ask would be when can you start trying again.  A few others that I asked:

1) Are there any indications that there was a reason for the loss

2) Are there any actions to take to avoid another loss in the future (high risk behaviors, weight loss, etc)

3) Are there supplements/medications that can(should) be taken to increase the liklihood of a successfull pregnancy (progesterone if #s were low, etc)

4) How long should we TTC until coming back for another appointment (this was a big one for me because everyone tells you if you dont’ get pregnant within a year to go to the doctor and I didn’t know if we’d have to wait an ENTIRE year again)

5) How long should I wait before contacting the doctor if I don’t get my period (another big one for me- can you tell I don’t like waiting??  I was worried I wouldn’t get my period for like 6 months and we’d just be waiting around)

What you’re going through is SO difficult and I’m so sad anyone has to feel that pain.  We lost our pregnancy in Febraury and got another BFP this month- so keep your head up, let yourself be sad and mourn the loss, but keep faith that this will happen.  Always feel free to PM me if you want to chat.

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