Post # 1
Now that we’d contracted all of our major vendors, it’s down to the little things that are going to make or break our budget. I have a few “wish list” items I’ve had on my list, but I’m about 99% sure I won’t be able to do it all. I know these things are all different prices but it’s 3 catagories that add a significant amount, yet I know other weddngs have done without..
As a guest, which of these things would make for the best experience?
As a bride, did you do any of these things, which was more worth it?
What should I cut?
1) SHUTTLES from a few major hotels to our venue? Instead we could offer taxi info. Note: Our wedding is in a vacation town a few hours from where we live, all of our guests will be driving or flying in from both coasts. Also, our venue is only about 10 minutes from hotels and has lots of free parking
2) COMFY EXTRAS – little blankets and/or pashmina-type wraps (it’s an outdoor wedding and may get chilly later), a basket of slipper shoes by the dance floor, and some heel-protectors in the ceremony area (where there’s grass), baskets of products and mints etc in the bathrooms
3) LIMOS – special rides for the wedding party & parents only so they don’t have to drive. Otherwise they could drive or arrange their own cabs or limos.
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
I’d definitely nix 2 and 3 if your ceremony and reception are close or in the same venue.
EDIT: But definitely make sure people know it’s outdoors… because I went to a freezing wedding this weekend that there was no notification that it was OUTDOORS. I definitely would have dressed differently.
Post # 4
Oh – yeah I guess that helps to know. Yes the ceremony & reception as well as getting ready suite and photos are all at the venue (but the venue is not a hotel)
Post # 5
I’d definitely cut the 2nd one, but make sure to tell people that it’s outside so they can be sure to prepare themselves. Keep the small bathroom basket, though. Those can really come in handy!
If it were me, I’d nix the shuttles too. It’s 10 minutes away. How expensive can two 10 minute cab rides be? (No, really, how pricey are they? I’ve never had to use one.)
Post # 6
definately cut #2. Just make sure everyone knows the event will be outdoors and to plan accordingly. It may NOT get chilly and then you waste money on an unneeded item, or guests might bring their own and not use yours. I’d skip those ‘comfy extras’
I’d also nix the shuttles. i assume alot of the guests will know each other and can carpool in cabs to save fares, and some will rent cars and others will have their own cars.
Post # 7
You realize you can cut all three, Right?
Post # 8
I don’t know what I would get rid of — maybe the limo??
Have you blocked rooms with any hotels in the area for a special rate? Many times these hotels will offer a complimentary shuttle if you book xx amount of rooms. You should look into this if you haven’t already. I used to work at a hotel and we did a lot of shuttle service – we just didn’t mention it to everyone. It was almost like a secret perk, but if anyone asked, the info was offered up! 🙂
Post # 9
I said the limos. We didn’t have limos, and no one missed them!
Post # 10
Definitely #2. In my opinion, if you’re serving booze at your reception and having lots of guests from out of town, it is boarderline rude to expect people to pay for a cab or be a DD. As a guest, I would much rather have a free ride there & back than a pashmina I may or may not use. As a bride, I don’t think the limos are “necessary” but I think they rank higher than the extras like the pashmina and slippers. It’s definitely nice to have – you get to spend some alone time with people closest to you on a day where you will be busy talking to lots of people. In the alternative, you could have the bridesmaids, etc. ride the shuttles from the hotel. I’d say cut #2, then if needed for extra funds #3, but definitely not #1.
Post # 11
I’d cut all three, personally.
Post # 12
@PrincessBride27: Disagree. If I invite people to my house for dinner and serve wine I don’t then also arrange for their transportation to/from my home at my own cost. There’s nothing really rude about having people figure out their own way.
As a guest though, I’d rather have transportation taken care of than have a pashmina/slippers since I’m usually pretty good at dressing myself appropriately.
You asked which would be the best guest experience, and #3 has nothing to do with that, since guests won’t know whether you arrived in a limo or a station wagon. My ceremony/reception was at the same place so we skipped the limo, and I didn’t really miss it.
Post # 13
OP, is LA in your wedding location “Los Angeles” or “Louisiana”? Not that either one really gets proper cold in the summertime, but if it’s Louisiana, the chances of anyone wanting a wrap outside in August is pretty close to zero.
Post # 14
I’d nix all 3. I think they are all a waste of money.
Post # 15
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
In order I’d say 1, 2, and 3. Guests should be able to get around themselves unless it’s a different country, and even then it’d be appropriate for them to find transportation. If this’ll take care of your budget problems, I definitely would cut this. The extras are a nice touch that I believe guests will definitely remember. Friends keep telling me about the wedding they just went to that had flip flops and how awesome it was and we should totally do that too! So those details definitely stick out to people. However, they are just that — extras. It’s awesome to have them, but I don’t think people will complain if you don’t (they won’t miss what they don’t know they could have had). And finally I think limos are one of those things that brings the bridal party together before the event, gets you pumped up and feeling like the star treatment!
Post # 16
@fishbone: Wedding is in Monterey – but in the valley, not by the sea… by it may get cold, I mean.. it WILL get cold once the sun goes down (55-65 degrees most likely). We’re going to have ample heat lamps and even open fire pits (with smores!) as well as an indoor cocktail area.
I suppose this is why the wraps rank highly to me. The limos btw would not be for me or FI, this would be just for the BMs and GMs and their dates.
I’ve only ever been to one wedding where shuttles were offered, and we didn’t use them because we wanted to be able to leave when we wanted… People always make a big deal about the shuttles, but I’m on the fence because while I agree it would be ideal, I’ve never seen it be an issue.
We’re also having beer/wine & martini bar only and a jazz band…so it won’t exactly be like some weddings where there’s club music and shots… it will be hopefully fun and elegant, but probably by some standards low-key.
If it were me as a guest, I’d rather have the extras, but that’s just because I’d rather drive myself or carpool with people I’d want to leave the same time with…but I know I’m in the minority with that opinon…good to hear other’s reasoning through