Post # 1
I need some advice. I’ve been with my boyfriend for over 3 years and we’ve talked about getting married and I know we will get engaged sometime in the next 6 months. BUT the problem is that when we’ve browsed at jewelry stores and I’ve said “oh that ones pretty” or “I like that one” and then looked at the price the rings have always been very expensive and not something that my boyfriend could afford. So then we’d look at ones more in the price range and they’d be…..ok, but still very expensive. I guess my question is what should I do knowing that what I like is out of his price range? Should I just let it be and settle for something I don’t really like? Should I pitch in so he can choose one that he knows that I will like?
The rings I like are just a plain solitare ring with around a .75 carat diamond, with a good cut/clarity/colour etc. His budget is around 3k but the rings we’ve looked at are about 4k.
What should I do?
Post # 3
You could get a ring from a store with an upgrade policy.. for instance, I know at Shane Co. you can upgrade whenever. Most places require the upgrade to be double the cost of the original, but there it doesn’t matter. It can be $1 more and you can trade it in. Soo if his budget is 3k, you could get something for that, then when you both save the 1k more to get the ring you LOVE you could upgrade.
It depends on how you feel about upgrades though!
Post # 4
I think you should keep shopping for sure. You shouldn’t have trouble finding what you’re looking for for that budget. Good luck!
Post # 5
Keep shopping around and I’m sure you’ll find something that works for you 🙂 I voted that it doesn’t matter, but that’s also in part because I don’t have a diamond at all (pearl). But if you have something in mind, don’t go for something else just to have one because you’ll regret it.
Post # 6
Keep looking. Try a wholesaler. And if you have no luck I say pitch in and either do the upgrading idea above, or just purchase the ring you want. You are going to wear it forever so you should love it.
Where are you located? I noticed you spelled colour the way I do so I am assuming you are Canadian 🙂 DH bought my ring at a great wholesaler here in Ontario.
Post # 7
Thank you everyone for all your great advice! It makes me feel better that no one thinks I’m being greedy for wanting something that I truely love and will be wearing forever. 🙂 I wouldn’t feel right about upgrading, because it wouldn’t be my original ring…I think I may just pitch in a bit because it is me who is wanting something a bit larger, whatever happens I’m sure I’ll be happy in the end.
And yes I am canadian (BC) 🙂
Post # 8
check out blue nile.com and get it set by a jeweler
mine is in your budget, and .78, so i know it’s possible
also– try antique shops. you can find it! keep looking. 🙂
Post # 9
I’d shop around (not in malls). My ring was about $2000 (I think), and it’s 0.7 carats with a half-pave band, and it’s gorgeous. So I think what you want is doable, as long as you step outside mainstream places, that will allow you to tweak things and bargain. Also, some of the 4Cs seem like a bigger deal in theory than in person (for instance my diamond has a small inclusion that’s completely not noticeable, and I’m not sure what the color is but I know not super colorless (based on the cost), however it looks perfectly white to me. Also look at white gold instead of platinum, etc.
Post # 10
@Kirsten4: I’m from BC and my Fiance got my ring from Spence Diamonds and they have a great upgrade policy. Plus they will work within your budget. I think their upgrade policy is that it has to be 50% more expensive than the original diamond. We’re going to get mine upgraded one day because he knew that I wanted a bigger diamond. You should be able to find what you want there!!
On a side note, I thought that the service at Spence was great 🙂
Post # 11
How about private sale?
We got our diamond that way (3/4 carat) then the rest of the ring can be sold to a jeweller and you can buy your own setting if it’s not your style.
My fiance paid about 900 for my paved setting, then we got the diamond (came in a soliataire and matching wedding band) for almost 3 k. I want to keep the wedding band but I could sell the solitaire to get back some money or keep it.
It really was worth it going that route, or try the united states for diamonds, they’re much less there. If you plan an over the boarder trip scout around for something.
We went to Spence too, but it was pricey, try some chinese jewellers (sometimes they give you discounts, or no tax) my paved band was from Pacific Mall in Ontario.
Post # 12
I got my ring for $3000 and it’s a 1 carat solitaire. I took a hit on the clarity but you can bearly see the imperfections. Just keep looking =) I got mine from Gordons Jewelers at our local mall.. they seem to have MUCH better prices than everywhere else we looked, plus the people were nicer and the diamonds had more sparkle… good luck!
Post # 13
@Kirsten4: if you use an online vendor, you could probably get an ideal cut, I/J, VS/SI diamond of that size set in 18ct white gold for around $2,500. Since you’re going with round brilliant, the colour usually isn’t very apparent (any higher than an I and you won’t be able to tell the difference very much at all… like if you placed an H beside an F, it’s hard to differentiate which is which unless you look at it bottom up or from the side). Also for a diamond of that size, you won’t be able to inclusions very clearly (round brilliant is really good for that) so likely anything higher than VS/SI you won’t be able to appreciate.