Post # 1
So I found out that my flower girl’s parents are splitting up. It’s my cousin and his wife (who I both love)
Do I still ask both of them to come or not her since she is my cousin by marriage? What the heck do I do? The wedding is next month so I can’t really “wait to see what happens”
Post # 3
Let them decide what to do. If their daughter is in the wedding, one or both will have to bring her. That is up to them to decide. I wouldn’t invite only one and not the other. They may both want to be there to support their daughter, and you of course, and set their differences aside for that event.
Post # 4
I would presume your invitations have aleady been sent.I would still invite them both. They are the FG’s parents. I would probably contact them both, separately and just be direct.
“Now that I’m aware that you are separating, are there any changes I need to make re your attendance at my wedding?”
Post # 5
@julies1949: I agree with this. You say you love them both, so invite them both, and if they are uncomfortable with it they will work something out. Asking them each in private is probably a good idea also.
Post # 6
I think they will decide whether or not they will both come. I would maybe contact them separately and ask about seating plans, etc.
Post # 7
I think inviting them both is fine, but you should ask them how they would like to be seated. (The Flower Girl may feel awkward to sit with one but not the other if there isn’t a kids table.)