Post # 1
I am a bridesmaid in my friend’s wedding. She was a bridemaid in mine. I remember when I was planning things, I kept everyone’s schedule in mind.
She text me the agenda for her wedding (Saturday, February 23). Everything is well, as that was the day I planned around.
She then told me the rehearsal was Friday at 3PM.
I am a full-time student and a full-time worker. She is wanting me to take the day off since I get out of work at 430. I planned to attend anything the day before her wedding, just didn’t expect it to be so early in the day. I told her I would be late to the rehearsal and would rush over there after work.
I remember the craziness of wedding planning, so I feel for her, but I also can’t just take hours off from work.
Am I being unreasonable?
Post # 3
@crysxo: Is there a specific reason it’s so early in the day, like does her church/venue only do rehearsals during the afternoon? If so, then maybe you could cut her some slack. If it’s at all possible, I would try to leave work a couple hours early. If you can’t, then I’m sure she’ll understand.
Post # 4
I have been in weddings where bridesmaids had to miss the rehearsal for similar reasons, and everything turned out just fine. The bride got a little upset initially, but she got over it. If you guys are close and you talk it out, I’m sure she’d understand.
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
My rehearsal will probably be at 3:30 or 4 on Thursday (our wedding is on Friday). Dinner at 5 (everything is tentative as of now). I’m sure your friend will understand if you can’t go because your job won’t let you take off a few hours early. Did she specifically tell you that she wanted you to take the entire day off of work? If she did, then I find that a little unreasonable, unless she was working on some wedding projects and is wanting some help.
Post # 6
Wow, why is her rehearsal so early? Ours is at 6PM the day before the wedding so that the few people who live in town will be able to still work that day and then come. I agree that you should just talk to her about it, and that she should get over it.
Post # 7
was she upset when you told her? some of our wedding party will miss the rehearsal and we couldn’t care less. It is what it is. (and ours is on friday evening). It’s pretty hard to screw up walking up an aisle.
Post # 8
Rehearsals aren’t vital – you’ve had your own wedding, you know what speed to walk at, etc. I think you should be fine not going, just be sure you get filled in if you’re walking with a specific groomsman or something like that.
Post # 9
Our rehearsal was on a Thursday at 4. We wanted everyone there, and everyone did come, but we would have been ok if someone had missed it. Our church had only certain times when you could have rehearsal. Plus we wanted to have the supper immediately following.