(Closed) What should I do????

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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1572 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Have a late morning/early afternoon ceremony and do just a cake and punch reception?

Have a brunch reception?

Post # 4
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1019 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Hmm, Can you try to get a part time job? Do a small courthouse wedding with a reception later on (like a 1yr anniversary) when you can afford it yourselves? You could do a cocktail reception? Depends what you can afford really..

ETA: I’m not sure the traditional way of brides family paying is still the norm.  I also don’t think it necessarily applies to grandparents so much as parents…
But I think that some stuff that was said may come across to others as seeming a bit entitled and you might get some negative feedback 🙁

I would try to see if there is a way you or your Fiance could make some money…

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Destination weddings can still be pretty costly.  For you, and your guests (and it sounds as if some of your family is struggling as is!).  The cheapest way, right now, would be to get married in January at the courthouse, meanwhile saving for a reception as a later date!

I know that may not be ideal, and honestly, if getting married without your family present does not appeal to you, which I understand, maybe postponing for a bit while you two save for what you want is another good option.

Sorry if it is not advice you wanted to hear 🙁

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would not ask your grandmother for money. And even if she offers, I’d be hesitant to take it since it seems like she’s spread pretty thin. Figure out what you and your fiance can afford and plan a wedding around that. All you really need for it to be a wedding is a marriage certificate, which is usually under $100. Everything else (dress, flowers, food, drinks, decorations, music, etc.) is optional.

There are great tips on here about how to plan different types of weddings for a small budget. The easiest solution is to have a very small guest list. Having a reception at any time other than Saturday evening also helps a lot. There are tons of ideas out there. Just be open minded.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

You could also limit it to immediate family only, do it on a Friday evening or a Sunday morning (so it is still “weekend” but rates are often cheaper at those times)

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

@JenGirl:  Agree!  Don’t ask for money.  Save and spend what you can afford…I’m thinking a smaller, intimate wedding during the day with no alcohol (or just a signature drink).  That will save you a lot right there!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

@MangoLover4Life:  We are having a Friday wedding…so far I haven’t heard any griping from guests (they all will have to travel anyway since it’s basically a DW).

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