- 5 years ago
Ok, basically I’m to that point where I just need advice from people who understand and have been there. I’ve been stressing out lately, having several meltdowns and have gotten into pointless arguments with my FH just because.
Awhile back, I went to look at veils at David’s Bridal. I had one picked out that I saw online, it was on sale (the only reason I was going to look in the first place) and she said they didn’t have it, that it was discontinued and that they could order it, but it would have to be shipped to me, and for $15! I thought that was ridiculous. So I started looking at other veils, and told her I was on a strict budget. Meanwhile, FH walked over to tell me he was going to the store next door, and the salesgirl shows the veil to him, and he’s like, oh! Tha’ts nice. I like that one. Didn’t even look at the price. So she’s all smiles and like, it comes in ivory, and goes to ring me up. It cost $200! And this was after i told hwr about one that I really wanted, and the site said it was available in stores or online. I described it to her and she said I don’t think we have that one. Didn’t even ask or wouldn’tlook it up. I have since found it online again and very plainly stated that its available in stores and online. Anyway, at that point, I felt sort of cornered, he said it was fine, wanted it, and so I felt pushed into getting it (I’m not one to really stand up for myself.). I’m a pleaser and obviously i want to wear something he’ll like. Anyway, after crying about it and arguing, we went back and I was told that I can exchange it for store credit.
So here is where the advice comes in. Here is what it looks like: http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Two-Tiered-Veil-with-Beaded-Metallic-Edging-VCT258S_Accessories-Veils-Mid-Length and the dress is
It was $199, and the thing is, my dress was only $399! Now I’m afraid, after all my other purchase – the candle, flower girl basket, shoes, ring bearer pillow, guestbook and pen, jewelry and dress preservation kit (I put in on my DB card), I won’t be able to afford the alterations I need (I want to have the zipper taken out and a corset back put in so I can change the ribbon color to coordinate with my wedding colors). Because I did that, they ordered the dress a size small (I need a 6, they got a 4). So I’m kind of stuck doing that, unless I go on a strict diet and stuff myself in the dress. I’m not sure how much that will cost, and that isn’t even factoring in a bustle or hemming or anything!
Should I take the veil back, and do without – I bought a really pretty headpiece at Joann’s for half off so it only cost $6 and not worry about a veil – , and use that store credit for alterations? Or suck it up, keep the veil, and if the alterations cost any extra pay out of pocket? That was what FH suggested… we share a bank account and so right now he’s pretty much paying for the dress and accessories and all, paying the card pretty much and told me to just pay the extra on the debit card.
I think the reason I need to rant is because I felt pushed into paying that much for a veil, when I was going to only pay $49, and then refused to pay $15 for shipping, and that was the veil that was made to go with my dress, and even though I said I was on a strict budge and was look at $20-$50 veils, and her eys lit up when he said he liked it. I guess it’s like I feel taken advantage of? And yes, I know I could have said no, but that isn’t the point. I’m mostly mad that I was even shown a veil that expensive and she refused to show me anything cheaper. And be seen plenty cheaper on the website. And yes, I’m ranting and freaking out because I have so much going on at the same time.
What set me over the edge was that the other day we went and I got a dress to wear to his reunion that ended up costing $149, and I thought was $99 until it was rung up. So I went off on that and complained about a dress I’ll never wear again (it’s also from David’s Bridal) and so I figured I could just exchange that for store credit and find something I already had to wear. He suggested I wear that to the rehearsal dinner or something, but I got mad and said it was ugly and made me look like a whore and wouldn’t wear it (yeah, I get a little mean when I’m stressed).
Any help, thoughts, comments, suggestions are welcome!