(Closed) What should i do

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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9918 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

You just don’t say anything.  What would be the point?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

nope.  you rise above it. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@ChocolateLime:  My guess is that you dont say anything. 9 times out of 10 that is what i would do….however, we dont know the story here. 

Post # 6
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8999 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

You take the high road and don’t say a word. If your Brother in law plans to marry this woman, she will be your family whether you like it or not.

You can’t change her.

She can’t change you.

Confronting her would solve nothing except further burn bridges and hurt feelings. Just leave it alone.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I wouldn’t say anything. Be civil at group functions and otherwise ignore her.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@ChocolateLime:  Can you give details?

Say nothing and she will get the message. Make yourself unavailable for phone calls, texts, and social gatherings.

Post # 9
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9145 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@ChocolateLime:  Be the classier one and ignore her except for when you have to interact with her at family events and then try to limit contacct as much as possible.  Saying something mean to her is only going to make you look bad and she might spin so that the family is upset with you for saying something to her.

If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@ChocolateLime:  um why on earth was she a BM?

 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@ChocolateLime:  um, she sounds very unstable. why would you want to confront an unstable person? it will do no good except make you even more of target… Ignore and stay away from her as much as possible!

Post # 14
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355 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

wow. just wow. good luck with that! All I can say suggest is common sense – keep your distance!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Atalanta:  That was my first thought to?!?!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@ChocolateLime:  And this is why sometimes you need to go against the ‘rules’ that are thrown around here!

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