- 5 years ago
I got engaged this past October, and set a wedding date for October 2015. Over Christmas I asked my Maid/Matron of Honor, and Bridal Party to be in my wedding..and I have 5 amazing girls! However, I have a little dilemma, and I’m not sure how to address it, if I should even address it, or how to go about it. I need some advice, and I’m hoping you can help.
I had a best friend since freshman year of college, lets call her R, and we were really close. We were both nursing students, and very busy, so normal social activities wernt always possible, but we remained friends through it all. We talked about life and marriage, and I told her that when I got married, that she would be my Maid/Matron of Honor. I meant it, and I love her like a sister. Then she switched majors, moved to a different building and changed her number–I didn’t see her as much, so I didn’t have her new number. I missed her alot, and tried to reach out–I emailed her, and spoke to mutual friends to try to get in touch with her. I tried to reach out for 8 months, during which time I got engaged, and was so excited to tell her—-but I just couldnt get in touch! Eventually I slowly gave up, because she hasnt called me in over a year, and I figured that we just lost touch, and that was that.
I went on with wedding planning, asked another close friend to be my maid of Honor, and I have my bridesmaids. Today, I ran into R, and I was so excited to see her!! She seemed equally excited to see me, and we chatted for hours. She had alot of things going on in her personal life, in the time that we were apart, and she didn’t get any of my emails.
So Bee’s…I still love this girl like a sister. I’d like to rekindle our friendship, and pick back up–that doesn’t seem too hard, based on the time we spent together today, but what do I do? I originally told her I wanted her to be my maid of honor…but someone else is doing that now. How do I go about asking her to be a bridesmaid–if I do end up asking her, without it being awkward? Would you be offended? I don’t want her to be hurt—but still, she didnt reach out to me in over a year, and my numbers never changed. Would it be silly to ask her, at this point? Should I just ask her as a guest and let that be that?
My fiance says I should wait 6 months, see how the friendship goes, and take it from there.
What would you do?