- 5 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
I have posted before about my issues with my Maid/Matron of Honor, but I still had lots of time left before the wedding, so I wasn’t too concerned. Now, the wedding is 2 months out and I’m getting a little nervous.
My Maid/Matron of Honor has shown no interest in looking for a dress. I have a matron of honor and a maid of honor. I told both of them to buy whatever dress they wanted in blush pink, navy, or gold. I didn’t want to ask them to spend a ridiculous amount of money on a dress, My matron of honor got her dress almost right away while shopping with some of her bridesmaids for their dresses. She sent me a photo, everything was good. My maid of honor has said that she would rather I go with her to find a dress. I said ok and told her to let me know when she would be ok to go. She has set up five different days and times to go look and every time, she backs out last minute or something else comes up. I’ve always told her if she couldn’t or didn’t want to do it, she didn’t have to and I wouldn’t mind if she just came as a guest. She always says that she wants to do it, can’t imagine not doing it…
At first, she was saving for a trip to see her boyfriend after he moved. Then they split up and she started seeing someone else. So then, she couldn’t go because she was saving for a trip to see him graduate from basic. Then she was saving for a trip to go see him when he was stationed. Then they split up. She told me she wanted to go on January 8 since she had the day off. The 6th, she calls me and says that she has to get her oil changed and her car radio fixed. Ok, that’s fine. I ask her if she wants to set up another day. She tells me we will go Monday. I say ok. Last night she called me and said that we couldn’t go because she had to pay her friend’s $1000 bond to get him out of jail.
I start a new job in February and will only have the weekends to go with her to look for something. She is a waitress and won’t take off on weekends because she makes the most money. I understand that, so that’s why we always try to set things up for weekdays.
I thought that it might be money, so I have found several dresses that fit what she wants in a dress for under $20. I even found a great one for $9 on sale. It’s not like I’m asking her to spend $150. I have purchased a few dresses that fit what she wants and sent to her house. She has returned all of them.
All of her actions say that she has no interest at all in participating, but she keeps telling me that she is going to do it, she promises that she will get a dress but she just wants to go with me to find one… I don’t know what’s going on. If there were anything going on that would prevent her from getting a dress she would tell me. She says that I am her most logical and understanding friend. Everytime I ask her if things are ok (when we aren’t talking wedding) she says they are.
I sent her a text two days ago telling her that if she wants me to go with her that we have to go this month. I haven’t heard anything from her. She’s not answering my calls or responding to my texts. I don’t want to kick her out of the wedding in case there is something else going on, but I also don’t want to keep playing the guessing game with her either. I’m worried that if we keep going this way she will wait until right before the wedding or that it will be the day of the wedding and I will still be wondering if my maid of honor picked a dress and will be standing with me.