(Closed) What should I do?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
2297 posts
Buzzing bee

I would just remove her from the position of Maid/Matron of Honor. She’s simply not reliable. 

I would tell her that she has to get a dress by a certain date or she won’t be in the wedding. I would give her plenty of time — maybe a month and a week — and if she didn’t have the dress by then I would remove her from the wedding, just like I said. 

You may be friends with her, but if she’s not doing what she’s supposed to do in a reasonable amount of time, you don’t have to put up with it. 

Post # 4
46594 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would speak to her on the phone if you can’t do it in person, rather than texting.

I would tell her your absolute deadline date – are you having programs printed? – for her to get the dress and let you know, and after that just drop it.  I would let her know that you will understand and love her whatever her decision, but if you haven’t heard from her by ____, that she has the dress, you will presume that she has chosen to attend as a guest.

Post # 5
8675 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@SouthernGirl:  What is more important- the dress or your friendship? If it is the friendship just say you changed your mind and want her to wear this dress. Pick a dress and tell her that is it or buy the dress (given that you have found ones lower than $20) and give it to her and tell her that is what you want her to wear.

If you don’t want to continue the friendship then tell her that you are ending the friendship and she is no longer Maid/Matron of Honor. Because kicking her out of the wedding is a friendship ending move.

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