Member- livelovelaugh83
- 4 years ago
I’ve known this guy for about a year. We first started talking in July last year in August we were talking quite a bit and first met up on my birthday in october. He is a bit of a work a holic but he would make time to talk to me and video chat he said he wanted to marry (oh for those who think that might be quick we are muslim so not really supposed to have relationships but anyway) We were not going to legally marry just islamicly so we could spend more time together anyway we set a date but then changed it for my family then his but it did not materialize he fell quite ill for a about two weeks then when we were supposed to meet up that same night he told me in the early hours that his sister passed away we ended up meeting in december that year then he went off to forfill prays for his sister he came back in January we had some contact when he was in Pakistan he spoke and saw me on the day he came back and then a few days later we were going to meet up again and out of the blue he says that his mum is really really unwell in icu after two weeks he came to see me in february we had bits of contact and I tried to be as supportive as I could in march his mum passed away he never told me he left his phone with his nefew who eventually told me so I left it till he returned end of april we started talking again he wanted to come and see me But was unable to get away he called me up one day it sounded like he just wanted to curl up with me and cry he ends up by the evening saying his family have set him up with some girl left her at his house to flirt with him yeah I was really cross when I heard that and trust me I wanted to swear to all his family and tell him to do one but I cut myself short thinking he’s been through such a tough time and not thinking clearly so instead I laughed it off which got him really cross and he cut the phone (now just so everyone knows when in these sort of situations happen since I was a kid I would deal with them by smiling or laughing it off it’s become an automatic response I tried explaining this to him) he was going to come the following day but when he finally answered my call at 2am and he said he has had to turn back home just a few miles away from me I got cross anyway the following day he said he got a call from family saying that girl burnt part of his house down and he smashed his car on the way there. I could not belive he left her there
Now he just wants to not talk so first I thought enough is enough then said if you want space fine but it’s been over a week and he still wount answer my call or respond to my text
My family think he is making it up and two of my friends think he is stringing me along
He lives about two hours away from me I did offer to come to him and tried once and he stood me up I have offered on other occasions he has missed about six dates in total but always come up with exsues you can’t argue with
Should I pack it in and cut my losses or should I give him more time
I really like this guy a part of me feels like I would be making a really big mistake leaving him
Oh just one other thing he has been hurt in the past by his ex but I have too and told him after he told me.
Thank you for reading and for your response
