What should i do????

posted 1 month ago in Relationships
Post # 2
6261 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

Usually I’m on the side of give the guy a break – I hate when women start playing games to get the guy or expect him to initiate everything.  But honestly this sounds like a pain in the ass.  Are you even enjoying yourself at this point? Is there something appealing about him besides his ability to makeout?  I wouldn’t bother anymore.

Post # 4
50 posts
Worker bee

When I was online dating and wasn’t sure if a guy was into me it usually meant that he wasn’t. Don’t text him again. If you hear from him again then you can engage and see if he just keeps trying to turn the conversation to sex. 

My guess is he was hoping for sex on the second date and after he didn’t get it he is no longer interested. He doesn’t want it to be obvious, so he is still engaging in text conversations with you. It sounds like he keeps trying to hint around the topic of sex though just to see if it is still on the table. 

If you are interested in casual sex with no commitment (and hey, that is perfectly fine too) then you may still want to see this guy. If you are looking for more a relationship though, from what you have written it doesn’t sound like he is on the same page. 

I know this is a cliché thing to say, but when a guy is truly into you and wants to make a relationship happen there will be no guessing. 

Post # 6
519 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2018 - UK

chrys3434 :  Yeah, he SAID he didn’t want to have sex, but he wanted you to go to the hotel with you. My money would be on him hoping that the cuddling would escalate. 

My first thought when reading your post was that he was disappointed he didn’t get sex on that date and then started pulling back a bit.

Post # 7
113 posts
Blushing bee

Sounds kinda like he might just be trying to get you in bed.  Only two dates in feels early to me to be making such suggestive comments.  And he’s obviously not in a rush to schedule the next date..seems like he’s just waiting to see if you’ll engage with his sexting.  Don’t chase this one.  If he was truly interested in pursuing something serious, you wouldn’t have to wonder.

Post # 9
240 posts
Helper bee

From what you wrote it kinda sounds like he uses online dating for hookups and keeps multiple women on the go. It’s my opinion that  you can gauge what a man usually texts by the themes of your chats. This definitely sounds more like he wants a physical relationship with his constant statements of wishing you were in bed together. I wouldn’t be surprised if he would cancel plans to spend time time with you to see someone who would readily (or has already) ‘gone to the hotel’. You know, for ‘all night long kisses’. (That’s also not something that comes up as a spur of the minute idea. He’s done it before.

If you are into this and having a good time, continue the game… but this doesn’t sound like it will lead to a relationship.

Post # 11
148 posts
Blushing bee

“suggested to go to a hotel as he has bought a property and temporarily stays at his parents house”


He’s either married or lives with his parents. Or is just DTF. Move on.

Post # 12
9212 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m guessing he was hoping for sex and since you didn’t put out he’s lost some interest. Nobody goes to a hotel to cuddle.

I’d move on.

Post # 14
3295 posts
Sugar bee

chrys3434 :  He said he didn’t want to have sex because YOU didn’t want sex. No man invites a woman to a hotel room without hoping for sex.

I’d just relax and see if he contacts you. But I don’t get your objection to multidating if this guy is giving you mixed sugnals.

Leave a comment

Find Amazing Vendors