Post # 16
aoifeo : this is what I am thinking too. Most likely he has a wife/live-in girlfriend. Or he may have someone who stays over the night frequently that she has toothbrush/lipstick/perfume in his bathroom.
The words he uses seem interesting to me. “can’t wait to explore each other” carries sexual connotations. A person who is truly interested in getting to know you more would say things like “Can’t wait to get to know you more” or “Looking forward to watching a movie with you.”
Keep dating other people. When I was online dating, there was this one guy I thought that was the “one.” Took me to fancy restaurants, non-stop texts/calls, planning fun dates etc.. After sex six dates in, puff, ghosted on me.
It sucks now but this too shall pass. Good luck bee!
Post # 17
I’m going to go out on a limb and say that he just wanted to have sex. His excuse for not wanting to go to his place is also BS, I would be suspicious that he’s in a relationship or just doesn’t want anything serious.
Edit: Also in this day and age almost everyone has a smartphone, so I no longer believe the excuse that they’re bad at texting back; unless he has an old school Nokia and needs to press 9 four times to get a Z.
Post # 18
I’d be wondering if he’s actually single as well. The hotel thing seems suspect.
I’d let this guy go. Between the sketchy living situation and inconsistent communication it doesn’t seem worth it. Next!!!
Post # 19
This guy isn’t it. Keep it movin.
Post # 20
Ye the more i think about it, the more i think he might be actually in a relationship.
Well he says he bought a flat and waiting to move in.
The thing is he is a single dad and i asked him multiple times if he is really single and he said yes.
Thats so bs when it happens if you have a relationship, stay with your relationship god damn it.
Post # 21
I’d be weirded out about being asked to go to a hotel room on the 2nd date. Who rents a hotel room (running over $100 for a decent one) to go cuddle for a couple hours? 100% he wanted sex, and/or to cheat on someone.
Post # 22
The thing is that the people at the pub door suggested to go to a hotel as we were kissing quite a bit and we left the pub holding hands.
But ye… his living arrangements are sketchy af.
Post # 23
suelan1006 : I found this with online dating quite a bit too. The first time was really upsetting. I was in long relationships all through my 20s so dating was brand new to me. The first guy that showed any interest in me sparked a lot of excitment. I built it up in my head quite a bit. He was great until after we slept together. Then he pulled way back, stopped texting as much and suddenly was too busy for regular dates but we could “hang out” when he was free… which was usually close to midnight. I put up with that for about a month before I just stopped texting him and never heard from him again.
There are a LOT of guys like this online. Eventually you start to figure it out. It became a LOT easier to spot the bullshit over time.
The guy I am with now never had me questioning his interest. He texted me frequently and wrote back quickly when I messaged him. He made clear and specific plans with me and never cancelled on me last minute without a very good reason and a date and time to make it up. I told him I wasn’t ready to put a label on what we were but we had an open conversation about our feelings, what we were looking for and what we wanted. He never gave me crap answers or tried to change the topic. At no point… from day one… did I question how he felt about me
Post # 24
the thing is….i dunno why the hell they are doing this????
we are adults here.
anyway i didnt even have sex with this guy.
Post # 25
He’s inconsistent with communication
He invited you to a hotel on the 2nd date aka trying to sleep with you regardless of what he said his intentions were
Has a child and they are “temporarily” living with his parents
So many red flags, especially for someone you barely know. I’d call it quits and move on, this guy sounds shady. I would bet that he’s either married, or lives with his parents but not by his own choice AKA hes a bum.
Post # 26
well he said the kid lives with his mum and he temporarily lives with his parents till he moves in to the house he bought.
No, i would bet he is married or live in with a girlfriend/fiancee
Post # 27
Yep, as soon as I read the part about the hotel my brain started screaming, “he’s married!” Or at least involved in a serious relationship. I’d let this one go, bee.
Post # 28
ye def not gonna text again at all.
If he does as normal and asks me out, i will say i find his arrangements sketchy and i have serious doubts he is single
Post # 29
Move on bee, he’s not serious……okay maybe he is about hooking up but that’s about it.
Post # 30
chrys3434 : problem is that they take advantage that there are so many people out there willing to go to the hotel on the first night