Post # 1
I think this one is unusual. I am open to any and all suggestions.
I have used my 1st husbands last name for the past 20 years. Let’s say it is Smith. Professionally, everyone knows me as Mrs. Smith. I remarried in April (during spring break) and when I returned to work I immediately began using my new married name. Let’s say it is Mrs. Jones. I work in a school and I knew it would be confusing for a while but by the end of the school year most were saying Mrs. Jones and occasionally there would be an accidental Mrs. Smith. No big deal. I’d forget sometimes myself!
Okay, here come the problems.
Problem 1 – I am still listed in the school district’s email system as [email protected]… and if I have them change it to [email protected]… I’m concerned that people who have known me professionally for the past 20 years who are at other school buildings etc. will have no idea how to contact me via email because they would not know I am no longer Smith but have now become Jones.
Problem 2 – I transferred to another school this year. I figured it was an opportunity to start fresh as Mrs. Jones and interviewed with the name Mrs. Jones but informed them that my email address is [email protected]… Anyway, the opening bulletin was printed and it introduced the new faculty member – Mrs. Smith. Class schedules were printed and it says the students have class with Mrs. Smith. For the past week I have been repeatedly telling the story of of how I was Mrs. Smith but now I am Mrs. Jones. *Sigh*
I have considered signing emails with:
Mrs. Jones (formerly Smith)
so that people will know that Smith and Jones are the same person. I have never seen this done before but it might help cut down on confusion. What do you think? People have suggested that I simply hyphenate, but I REALLY do not want to formally keep my ex husband’s last name.
What to do?
Post # 3
I’m a teacher too and am starting back tomorrow with a new last name. Mine isn’t as complicated, I kept my maiden name and added his without a hyphen. But, my email is like yours.
I will still have the same email issue, but hope that the IT department will switch it. I’m still in the directory, so that helps. I know some teachers kept their old email address for a year and then had it switched, they just changed their signature line. For me, I think I would just send an email to those contacts I had informing them of my email change.
If I would have taken his last name and dropped mine entirely, I would sign my email as:
Mrs. (Smith) Jones.
Post # 4
It should be no problem for the IT department to change your email address and forward from the old email for a time perios say 6 months or 1 year. I would contact them and find out what their procedure is. I am sure it will not be difficult to fix. As for the new school, since you are new the students will probably jsut think the school messed up which it did. Give them a little time to become acclimated and things should work out fine.
Post # 5
It didn’t occur to me that there would be a period where emails would be forwarded. I wonder if 6-12 mos. is long enough. I have talked with IT and they told me what form to complete in order for me to switch names but again, I didn’t consider there would be a transition period. I assumed it would be sudden. There have been instances where I’ve emailed people I haven’t been in contact with for years and years and if the switch was sudden people wuould not be able to find me. I’ll contact IT in the morning. In the meantime I’ll use Mrs. Jones (Smith) as my signature.
Post # 6
Are you allowed two email addresses? That might cut down on the confusion. Where I work many people get married and their outgoing email would say Mrs.Jones but they can get emails to both Mrs.Smith and Mrs.Jones. Usually they would change the email address to read something like
Amanda (Smith) Jones and then eventually drop the Smith part after a few months – that way everyone realizes you are the same person with a different last name.
Post # 7
1 – Have them change the email. Any IT team worth their salt will create the new account and then have all mail from the old account forward to it automatically. If someone emails you at the old account, it’ll come through to your new account, and your replies to them will come from your new account.
2 – The school needs to correct this mistake. If they put you down as Mrs. Anderson (a random but incorrect name), they would have made the correction for you, and using the wrong name is still using the wrong name, even if it used to be your name. I don’t think you owe anyone an explanation – just tell them, “The school made a mistake and listed me under the wrong name. I am Mrs. Jones.”
You could also consider putting it in your email signature, something like
(formerly Mrs Smith)
6th Grade French Teacher
School Name, School District
or something like that