What should i do about my verbal abusive stepdad towards my mother?

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
1593 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

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darkworld :  oh hunni, its good that you recognise his behaviour is abusive.  You sound very mature for a 16 year old.  

It can be very hard for people in this sort of relationship to see the problems or leave, so your mum might not be willing to leave him.  Know that this is part of the abuse cycle, it doesnt mean your mum doesnt care.  Your priority will need to be your own wellbeing.

Is there anyway you can tell your grandma whats going on, or go back to living with her or a family member?  If not, is there a teacher or someone you trust that you can talk to about it? 

In the meantime, try and stay out of his way as much as you can.  Its not your fault that hes like this.

Post # 3
1432 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

I’m so sorry you’re having to live there, bee.  You’re absolutely right that his behavior is not good, or normal.  Unfortunately your mom is not making very good choices, but sometimes people do that because they can’t see what’s really happening in front of them.  It’s very hard, and I’m sorry that you’re sort of stuck in the middle.

Can you contact your grandmother and ask her to help you?  Do you have any other relatives you could speak to?

Post # 4
33 posts
  • Wedding: February 2018

oh no, it’s not good, but you can do much either. your mom should be able to differentiate and take initiative too, not receiving every negative names that your stepdad has been calling her. and i’d suggest you not to hang out very often with your stepdad, he’s a bad influence really.

Post # 5
1709 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

Talk to a teacher or school counselor. Tell them what you told us..Tell them you’re afraid of him. 

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