Post # 1
I dont get it. I addressed the names to the people I have invited. Now a person wants to invite someone else. What is it with people??
The person who she invited just messaged me on FB about it and she wanted to know if it was okay that she come.
I was friends with the lady who was invited, but now are just FB friends. I guess I dont mind her coming, but still.
What would you do?
Post # 3
“I am sorry… our venue is only so big, we’ve had to turn both family & friends away, I’m sure you’ll understand”
Lather, Rinse, Repeat… as many times as necessary
Don’t get me started on how inappropriate and a HUGE breach of Etiquette it is to just have one invite themselves (or a friend)
Stick to your guns, because once one squeezes in thru the door being ajar, they’ll come out of the woodwork and drive you crazy !!
Post # 4
And right now our venue holds 200 people. And the people invited is about 104. Now we are having a buffet dinner, so its not like we will run out of food.
I guess I want to get a few declines before I start telling people yes. Maybe I can tell her that……?
Post # 5
It sounds like the FB friend understands that she wasn’t invited on the right terms (although I think if she was truly gracious, she would decline the guest that invited her and not bother you at all) and probably would be receptive to your honesty.
I like This Time Around’s response–something nice like, “We’re so touched that you would like to spend the day with us, but we’re a bit constrained in terms of space.” If you wouldn’t mind her coming but want to wait until you get a sense of the number of guests coming, I guess you could tell her that, too. It gets messy easily, though, so it really depends on your temperament and that of this friend.
Post # 6
Well I told them both. I said I dont mind, but not until I start getting declines. Becuase I have no choice. We are too full.
So we’ll see. 🙂
Post # 7
I only want people there who we know well. Period, end of story. If I would not take that person out to a nice dinner and spend $20 on their meal, I am not inviting them.
It’s ok to lie to someone and say “I’m sorry but we just don’t have the space for extra guests” even if you do. Do you really want to pay however much per head for some random chick who asked for an invite to your wedding on Facebook like it was some fucking 4th of July BBQ?