(Closed) What should I do about this? My name was left off wedding invitation

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 77
219 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Garden outside our church

The same thing happened with me, only it was my FI’s son. I was helping plan the groom’s side of things (rehearsal dinner, etc), as he has no mother, but I was completely left out of the wedding. I ended up going out of town instead.

Now, nearly 4 years later, they left me off of their baby’s first birthday invitation (and STD). Needless to say, I’m not too comfortable around them (even though they have me over for dinner, etc.)

I hope things end up better with your FI’s friend and wife than my situation!

Post # 78
238 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

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@DrMrsCol:  What does your Fiance say about you beingleft out? That’s so sad that they don’t include you.


To the OP, what a crappy situation. I really hope that she is ignorant and doesn’t know  proper etiquitte. Do update us though, I too am curious as to what is said.

Post # 79
5407 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m definitely curious for an update too (:

Post # 80
1826 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

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@DrMrsCol:  And your Fiance is OKAY with this?!?! I’m sorry but this would not fly with me! If my Fiance did not support me and say something and then let me go out of town instead even if I hadn’t been involved with the wedding planning (let alone that you were) then I would have just kept going! That is just wrong!

Post # 81
3051 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Let us know what happens OP!

Post # 82
195 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

How rude! I sincerely hope it was some typing error! Your Fiance definitely should talk to the groom!

Aww… I can understand how that must make you feel though….

Post # 83
37 posts
  • Wedding: October 2014

Totally unacceptable for you to not be invited. I agree with PPs that your Fiance should talk to his friend. I’m interested to see how this plays out.

Post # 84
1093 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I agree that something has to be said. 

I disagree with the advice that you should just not go and not say anything.  This is because the OP is friends with the groom. What if he wasn’t involved at all with the invites?? And if you don’t say anything and youdon’t go and he doesn’t see you at the wedding, he’ll prolly flip out and ask why the hell didn’t you guys say something!

Just have your Fiance talk to him and find out what the scoop is!

Post # 85
1709 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

I told Fiance about OP’s situation.  He said that no matter if he were the best man or a guest, he wouldn’t attend the wedding (even a month out).  I really hope this was an oversight though!

Post # 86
575 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would definitely say something. If you know of other’s invitations that did include the SO, then it appears you weren’t invided, but that is incredibley rude since Fiance is a Groomsmen, Best Man at that!

I’d love an update!!

Post # 88
3716 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

@HockeyGirl:  I’d love an update!


For what it is worth, something similar happened at my male best friend’s wedding. We were all invited without our significant others. I was really annoyed, but RSVPed for me alone and was going to suck it up. Groom asked me why Fiance wasn’t coming and I said because he wasn’t invited. He was shocked and found out that his then-FI “accidently addressed the invitations wrong”. I would say to mention it.

Post # 89
36 posts
  • Wedding: September 2013

Bump for update! 

Post # 90
924 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I think you were intentionally left off for whatever reason since she clearly knows etiquette since she addressed the other invite correctly. So, I would just call up the bride myself and ask her straight out. Better to get it right from the horse’s mouth.

Post # 91
367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Keep us posted. It sounds especially off since you 4 hang out and go on trips together.

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