- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2016
Oh, sweetie! I wish I could reach out of the Internet and give you a great big hug. I’m not surprised that you are going to be spending the summer at an Ivy League medical school, because you clearly have a lot of empathy, compassion and brightness which makes you see and love the best in people in a way that makes you want to help them be better.
It’s okay to have feelings for the best person your ex could have been. You can’t help feelings, sometimes. But what you can help is your actions; you should actively let go of his place in your life. Let yourself heal, and acknowledge that it is a good thing he is gone.
as for your mom, you have some solid advice there, too – be aware that as much as you honestly love her as a mother, she does not hold your best interests to heart. You are stronger than she thinks (or seems to wish for you to be).
most of all, please don’t let this hard, turbulent time rob you of that compassion and passion you have to see the world as better than it is because you are intelligent, driven and loving enough to make your vision a reality. Just allow this experience to teach you that not everyone is as sincere as you… Now you have seen what assholes are like, you can better pick them out.