- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
So I have my dream location send me a quote for rental of the venue and it estimated around 8k for just the venue rental and that doesn’t include food or decor. This wedding will cost about 15k-18k! This doesn’t include our rings and honeymoon! I feel like this wedding is about us not our family, why should I spend $150 per family member for an extravegant day. But with this mentality, I will lose my dream loaction and I’m fine with that if it means that my fiance and I have beautful forever lasting wedding rings and a great longer honeymoon. I feel really bad about this amount of money being spent because it could be used for more productive things.
Well I want to use the money from this extrvegant wedding towards our honeymoon and moving the wedding to a restaurant. Either an italian restaurant or a even a chinese restaurant which will be half to what I would have spent at the other dream place.
Here’s the issue my family had set theirs hopes on our dream venue and do not like this restaurant idea, especially our chinese restaurant idea. I need their approval or I need someone to tell what to do and tell me it is ok to do. The reason I have chosen a chinese restaurant it’s because my fiance and my first date was a chinese restaurant and he proposed at a chinese restaurant. He and I or my family are not anywhere asian, lol.
So if I choose to give up my dream venue this will mean that I can have a longer more extravegant honeymoon but a less extravagent wedding.
I know if I have my wedding at the Italian restaurant I can shift all my original decorations to this new venue. The Italian resturant option will be about 8k total. If I do the chinese restaurant I can use most of my original decorations and also create a cool asian theme like cherry blosom on manzanita branches and orchids decorations, black chiavari chairs, origami crane card holders, red or amber uplighting, fortune cookie treats. I know It will look very western meets asian modern. The chinese restaurant option will be about 6 k total.
My fellow bees what should I do?! I feel like i should be smart about this and choose the other two options since it’s cheaper or should I have my dream wedding and please my family. I just want to marry my fiance and have a nice wedding and have a memorable honeymoon.
If I choose my other options which one should I choose?
Should I feel bad about spending the money? What should i do?
Here are pictures:
My dream venue
Or the italian restaurant:
Or the chinese restaurant;
Here’s a second but cheaper chinese restaurant:
My fiance’s side is giving us 2k, my parents are giving us about 3k, my sister is giving us 2.5k and the rest of the money will be paid by us but the rings and honeymoon definetly falls under my fiance’s and I jurisdicton. If I choose the cheaper options I will not have to pay anything but our rings and honeymoon.