(Closed) What should I do? Want Beatles song for recessional, but my parents hate it

posted 8 years ago in Music
  • poll: What should we do for the recessional song?
    Ditch "All you need is love" and pick something traditional that my parents will like : (0 votes)
    Forget what my parents think and do what we want - we should be allowed to pick ONE song! : (39 votes)
    75 %
    Meet in the middle - find another Beatles Song or another oldie that my parents don't hate : (13 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    That’s a lot of thoughts on a song that will play for all of 3 minutes, if that!! I say do it. I would.

    Post # 4
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

    I do see how you care what they think because they are paying, but it’s ONE song. If I were you I would stand my ground and insist on having at least this one thing…but I’m a pretty stubborn person so that may not be the best advice. Laughing

    Post # 5
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    184 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    normally, I would say to forget what your parents think and do your own thing. But if your mom is normal, and still has written you 3 e-mails about it, she obviously feels strongly about it. I would hate to have a song play when we left the church that I know my parents hated. I voted for meet in the middle- if you can find a beatles song that elevates the institution of marriage (ps- that is hysterical! i love it!) that might make everyone happy.

    Post # 6
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    i guess it depends just how much you care about this. for me, i wouldn’t care about my parent’s feelings because they’re paying, i’d care because they’re my parents. and personally, for me it’s not worth the fight, which obviously with all the emails, it’s a big issue with them. i’d give in and find something we both like. it’s just a song.

    Post # 8
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    275 posts
    Helper bee

    I am of the ‘do it your way’ camp.  You and your future husband are the only ones who are going to remember every detail of your wedding.  Guarantee no one else will remember what you walked down the aisle to, so you need to make it what YOU want.

    Post # 9
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Isn’t that the song that they use in “Love, Actually?” for the wedding recessional?  I love that part of the movie!  Maybe you should have them watch that movie and they will change their minds 😉

    Post # 10
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

    I think parents can rightfully exert a lot of influence in weddings. I don’t think this is one of those areas where it would be more respectful (and therefore right) to give in. Pick the recessional song you want; this part isn’t about them.

    Post # 11
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    4024 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Its about you. explain to them that you understand that they don’t agree with your choice, but this is your wedding day and that song means a lot to you and you are going to play what makes you happy.

    Post # 12
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    5263 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think the song, in this case, applies as the two of you see it, not as your dad sees it. That’s what’s important! Normally I’m all for compromise, but I really don’t see why your parents are being picky on this front. 

    Post # 13
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    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    It’s just ONE song. You get to pick I say.

    And By The Way, “All You Need Is Love” was our recessional and I don’t even remember it b/c we ran out so fast, but I had guests tell me it was a cute song (instrumental) and they liked it.

    Shoot, I’m surprised you even discussed this with your parents! I didn’t!

    Post # 14
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    5273 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I agree w/ Spaniel, I can see giving in to something like decor or adding this or that to the wedding, but the song you walk down with you newly wedded husband to??!! That should be 100% your two’s decision.

    Plus my husband & I actually walked down to “All you Need is Love” and our guests loved it, espically the older ones, they all thought it was a sweet & very fitting song to incorporate in our wedding; plus it is fun!

    Good Luck to ya!

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    LOVE this song! It is going to feature somewhere in our wedding as well! i say go for it- its one song out of many and yours parents will get over it. i bet people will love to hear this as you leave! Does the who, what, when, where, why of the song writing matter when you feel it speaks to you and your love? No. Marriage is a serious thing- but it should be full of joy and irreverence too!

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    we are using that song, too!  I don’t know why parents are so GD picky about everything – they already got married once.  Sheeeeeesh.  If they truly notice and get mad about a detail like this, they need hobbies.  This is your parents, anyone’s parents from posts like this on here.  I read so many posts about parents that stand their ground about every single detail and it is just so weird to me! 

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