Post # 1
So, my grandmother and I were very close. She was like a second mother to me. She died when I was in 8th grade, leaving me her round solitaire engagement ring. B/f knows about the diamond, and we considered all our options when we started talking engagement/ring. We talked about trading it in for an emerald cut (what I really want), trading it in towards wedding bands, or having it reset. Ultimately we decided to have it reset because I’m somewhat attached to the stone and it’s a pretty good size.
Right now I have the stone in a box in our bedroom. I check it periodically just so I know its in there– its worth a lot of money, you know? My question is, won’t I ruin my own surprise when one day I check the box and the stone is gone because b/f has it at the jeweler?
Should I just go ahead and give it to him now so I don’t know when he actually takes it? He is a little disorganized and VERY messy so I’m scared to turn it over to him– its so small, and he is a boy after all.
This is almost identical to what it looks like– minus the side stones. The ring pictured is the exact same carat weight and shape, just in case you were curious:
Post # 3
Can you give it to your Mom or your Dad (or his parents) to hold until he’s ready? Then he can get it from them and your suprise will be intact.
Would that work?
Post # 4
Or maybe a safety deposit box at a bank? Something with both your names so he could get it out without you.
Post # 5
i would go with the safe deposit box route or give it to your mom for safe keeping.
Post # 6
I also vote for a parent holding it for him (if that’s a possibility)…if not then a safety box rental might be a good idea.
Post # 7
Parents live pretty far away on both ends. My parents are 6 hours away, his are 2.5. I hadn’t thought about a safety deposit box, that might be a good option for us. Is the general consensus that I will ruin my surprise if I hold on to it? Thats what I fear. The safety deposit box sounds good in theory, I just don’t know what that would cost? Money is vvvvery tight for us right now, even an extra 20 bucks a month is sometimes hard to come by.
Any other ideas?
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2009 - Ceremony: The Kraine Theatre, Reception: Midtown Loft & Terrace
I like the idea of giving it to your parents or his!
Post # 9
I vote for a safety deposit box. He can’t lose it! But I also like that you have your mom or someone hold onto it in the meantime.
By The Way, you should totally get it flanked with emeralds. Gorgeous! i love the sparkle versus shine of different cuts just like that! I have a cushion with baguettes so i’m obviously quite partial =]
Post # 10
I would give it to your parents. Keep it in the family until he needs it. I would hate to see something happen to a precious heirloom. Call it a trust issue or sentimental empathy, but I would just worry too much that something could happen to it.
Post # 11
Why not have him surprise you with the band you guys picked out. Or with a fake ring from the dollar store. That way you won’t ruin your surpise or worry that he lose it etc.
Post # 12
Yes, I would go ahead and give it to him so that the surprise of timing isn’t ruined. That’s IF you want to be surprised…if you don’t really have an opinion either way, then leave it be.
Post # 13
If money is tight then perhaps put it in a safe in your house and make sure that he has the only key? you can get a cheap safe or lock box from wal-mart or something like that.
Post # 14
The safety deposit box is the best way to go. But if money is tight, then give it to your parents. He can call them and get the stone when he is ready. It doesn’t matter how far away they are, when the time is right he will have to make the 6 hour trip.
Post # 15
Oh i know he wouldn’t mind making the 6 hour trip– its just that I’m pretty sure him being conspicuously absent for 12 hours one day will ruin the surprise as much as me finding out the stone itself is missing! We live together, so I’ll know if he is gone for two days….
I like the safe idea, that might work for us.
Post # 16
Thats a very pretty ring!! Even more special that it was your grandmothers!