(Closed) What should I do with this OOT Bridesmaid?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What should I do about this bridesmaid?
    Drop her. She's flaky. Don't go to her VR next year, either : (0 votes)
    Ask her to step down, but go to her VR next year : (0 votes)
    Hope for the best, let her stay, and go to her VR next year : (4 votes)
    100 %
    Other? : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    1041 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Just prepare for her to be there. It seems like she really wants to be there but is just worried about money. I wouldnt drop her. whether or not she is in yours should have nothing to do with her VR.

    Post # 4
    3375 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    What’s a VR?

    Post # 6
    817 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    This sounds VERY similar to a bridesmaid of mine. We were talking recently and she made a comment, “So I WILL be able to make it to your wedding after all, and my bf is coming with!” I was like, “uhhhh, you weren’t SURE you were coming???” She’s also 9 hours away and was using the money excuse (although she just went on a vacation to Puerto Vallarta with her bf…)

    Anyway, I think you should just go with it. Plan for her to be in your wedding and don’t worry too much. If she happens to flake out at the last minute, let it be. And if that DOES happen, maybe she’ll be willing to take a handout from a friend if money is truly the issue.  It sounds like she’s a little wishy-washy but try to trust that she’ll do whatever it takes to get her there.

    It won’t be the end of the world if one bridesmaid doesn’t make it the last minute….I know it seems like a big deal now but it the “big picture” it won’t make a huge difference.

    And I say that you should go to her VR regardless of whether she makes it to yours.


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