Post # 1
Bees, I need your help! I’m pretty certain I’ve found the perfect venue in my price range. It’s both a ceremony and reception space. It’s beautiful. It’s cheap. And the caterer(s) that work with the space are very flexible with my budget. Thing is…I want to go in and meet to tour the venue next week. I’m “forcing” my fiance to go with me. I’m nervous because I don’t want to be pressured into signing papers or making decisions right away.
The main reason why I’m visiting the space so early is the fact that I’m in school eight hours away and the next time that I’ll be able to visit would be sometime in the summer. A lot of stuff will happen between now and then with people getting engaged. I’m afraid that not doing my research in advance by visiting is going to put me at a disadvantage. Plus, it’s already started some booking for 2012.
Additionally, I want to get as much out of the way as soon as possible. I’m a full-time student and I teach a couple of courses. In summer 2012, I’ll be trying to finish writing and publishing a thesis, graduating, and moving across the state…and then getting married!! My fiance and I are also in a long distance relationship, so there’s enough strain with trying to plan time with him and plan what little of the wedding that I have so far.
So a couple of questions:
-In general, what should I expect by meeting with a venue? Did you feel pressured at your venue meeting to make a decision right away? Or did they give you time to think it over?
-Do you think it’s too early to visit this place? Should I just cool it and try to wait until the summer?
-ETA: What kinds of questions should I be asking when I visit this place?
Post # 3
From my experience, I felt no pressure from a venue to sign on the dotted line and fork over money when I went to visit. All of the venues gave us info. packets, took us on a tour and let us know what their availabilities were. Now, do I think it’s too early to visit? Maybe. I would check back in with them around April or May. I only say that because you never know whether or not you’ll change your mind between now and then…which does happen with wedding planning.
Best of luck!
Post # 4
@waffle: Luckily, they were good enough to email me an informational packet, but I am interested in seeing the space and meeting the coordinator.
It’s possible that I’ll change my mind, but I think I’m really afraid of losing this space seeing how low my budget is (under $10,000 for all wedding expenses — dress, invites, reception, ceremony, honeymoon, etc.) and what the possibilities are in my area. Most venues that have gotten back to me are in the $120-170pp range and that is sooo beyond my means.
Thank you for your input.
Post # 5
You don’t really get pressured by the venue. Use the meeting to get an idea of how the day would flow from ceremony through reception. Ask to see pictures of other weddings to see potential setups.
Here’s a link to the checklist I made when looking at venues. Maybe it will spark questions you want to ask.
Post # 6
@katsupgirl: Thank you so much! Your checklist is a great start.
Post # 7
Sure, no problem. Happy planning!
Post # 8
When we visited different venues we would always walk through the entire place – including looking at the bathrooms and outdoor spaces (if available). We would talk about what was included with the venue and things like preferred caterers, costs, preferred bakers, alcohol regulations, hours of use, hours we could get in before the wedding, where we could have the ceremony and reception, rain plans if outdoor spaces, any rentals necessary, parking, etc. There are tons of questions to ask. I never felt pressured to choose a venue while visiting it. We penciled in at one or two places but then we just called them later on to cancel or confirm. I had a planning book that had a good list of questions on it. Im sure the link that katsupgirl gave you had some great questions!
Post # 9
@PitBulLover: Do you happen to remember what the planning book is? All my info has been from the internet, so having something else would be helpful.
Post # 10
@RayRayFurious: hi! i’m a bee on a budget as well…wondering which venue you ended up signing at?
Post # 11
@RayRayFurious: How’d this go? I think we’d all like some updates 🙂 🙂