(Closed) What should I expect from my family when I announce my engagement?

posted 6 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@CornySyrup:  I didn’t warn my parents because I didn’t think it was necessary. I got engaged when I was a few weeks shy of 21. We had been together for 4 years and it was time. They were shocked, but after that wore off they were just happy for us. I think a good “warning” would be him asking your dad for his blessing. But otherwise I don’t think there is much point in letting them know. It sounds like he is a good guy and they will be happy for you. You might get asked if you’re pregnant though (not that its appropriate for them to ask, but some people ask anyways when they think its rushed or even if they think it isn’t being rushed).

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Doesn’t sound like there’s any reason to be worried…you’re both responsible adults, pursuing degrees..your family has met him and loved him…be excited! Even if they are surprised at first, they will be happy for you πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Well first, based on your post alone – it sounds like you are mature enough to be making this decision. You’re very well spoken (or written? :))

They may be shocked, but because you’ve said they liked him, I’m sure they will come around. Have you two discussed where you will get married/build your life together? If you are thinking of living abroad permenantly, that is probably another adjustment that they will have to come to terms with. 

Also, have you and your boyfriend discussed if he will speak with your parents prior to proposing? That might go a long way with them. I know my parents really appreciated it.

As as someone marrying a Greek – Good luck! πŸ™‚ I just converted to Greek Orthodox last week and I have moussaka in the oven as I type this! πŸ™‚

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m the same vague age as you and FH is a year younger.

My advice is to get them used to the idea. That’s what I did and it helped a lot when it came time to announce it.

Good luck :)!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I don’t really think there’s much to prepare for. We first started talking engagement when I was barely 22, and my mom and dad were really excited . We’re now 24 and 28, so I definitely feel it’s really time. When you know, you know. Even if your family is shocked, which it doesn’t sound like they will be, they’ll get over it quickly and be excited for you.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

If you are ready to say yes to marriage, then you should hope your parents will accept that you a grown, mature, consenting woman.  You cannot let their feelings influence your decision on who to marry or how/when to start a life with them.  I, too, am marrying a Greek (I’m American), and although he wanted to be respectiful and as my parents’ permission, we weren’t about to let that actually impact our decision.  They were thrilled about it, but I never worried beforehand, and nor shall you.  It is YOU that will be married to him, not them, so take some pressure off yourself and bask in this delightful stage!!! Just be sure to read up on their traditions—there is a lot to learn, but its all so beautiful πŸ™‚

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Hope it went well! I’m also 22 and was very nervous about telling my parents about the engagement, even though we have been dating for three years and living together for two.  I finally did it a week or two later when the ring came in… i was SO scared but their reaction was very positive, they actually weren’t surprised.  Good luck!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I am going to be totally honest with you, I got engaged when i was 19 almost 20, We had been together for almost 5 years, we had always planned on waiting until done with school, so we were doing it the “right” way according to our parents. My mom is just now, after 2 years starting to get excited. 

I hope that your family is thrilled for you, but know that, that is not always how it works out:/ 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@CornySyrup:Yay! I just got engaged just over 2 weeks ago, and I was petrified to tell people (I’m 21). But, everybody has been so lovely! No negative reactions at all, pleasantly suprised.

Congrats πŸ™‚

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

So glad everything worked out!

Post # 16
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Newbee

Congratulations on the engagement!  If you’re planning on bringing your fiance over to live in the states, I highly suggest you consult http://www.visajourney.com .  It’s been a great help for my fiance (Canadian) and I as we are undergoing the K1 visa process.

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