- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2015
I am looking for some much-needed advice on my sister/MOH.
A bit of background: my sister lives at home and works full-time in a health care field. She has known that she would be Maid/Matron of Honor for nearly two years. When we first started talking about it, we sat down as a group and decided on budgets, and what each bridesmaid was comfortable/not comfortable wearing. This went pretty smoothly and both members of my bridal party agreed on a dress that was 225 in store. With taxes and an additional charge due to plus size, the dress came to 275 + alterations. I have already offered to cover hair and makeup (of their choice– I really don’t care what they do with their hair so long as it survives the heat!). As far as accessories go, I am making their jewelry and hair accessories, and they are wearing shoes of their choice.
I think my basic issue is I don’t feel that she is making being Maid/Matron of Honor any sort of priority. And by priority, I mean she informed me at the dress appointment that she would “buy it when she wasn’t broke”. She then went out and spent nearly 1000 an hour later on miscellaneous hobbies and re-decorating a bathroom at our vacation house. I know she has the right to choose how she spends her money, I just wish that she would fulfill her obligation as Maid/Matron of Honor as well. I feel like its a struggle to even have her order her dress, let alone participate in anything else. She informed me today that she has no intentions of purchasing a wedding or shower gift because the dress was too much and she went shopping instead. I just want her to participate and do normal Maid/Matron of Honor things. To me this means buy the dress, come to/plan the bachelorette party, help with the shower, and enjoy some of the fun stuff with me (dress shopping, getting ready, etc.).
So tell me, am I being unreasonable? What do you consider to be reasonable expectations to have of a MOH?