Post # 1
I have 5 bridesmaids, 2 are my sisters, 1 is my sister in law, 1 is my cousin, and 1 friend. I made my first sister as maid of honor since we have been close all our lives and my second sister is a lot younger. However, she’s not very responsible and doesn’t plan things so my friend really stepped up and performed a lot of the maid of honor roles. My friend showed up for all of the bridal activities (dress shopping etc), she provides insight on wedding planning from past experience as a bridesmaid, she is very responsive to my wedding rants and drama, and she is taking lead in planning the bridal shower and bachelorette weekend. My maid of honor sister’s role so far is to make sure everyone on the day of has a great time and give a great speech. I’m gifting my bridesmaids the following below. I really wanted to make sure these gifts are practical and economical. These items have no mention of bridesmaid or wedding phrases whatsoever so they should be able to reuse these items daily if they wanted to. They also have such varying personalities from masculine to feminine, so the gifts needed to be closer to the unisex category.
- a monogrammed canvas bag in their favorite colors and their initials (which will be filled with DIY emergency day of items)
- a monogrammed gold bar necklace in their names
- a monogrammed leather card wallet with their initials
- a monogrammed floral robe in their names
- I am also paying for their hair/makeup and mani/pedi
I’m not sure how to differentiate my sister’s gift for maid of honor and my friend for all she did. My other maids are great, but her efforts in planning these activities should really be rewarded, because I know how difficult it is to plan such events with unreliable and unresponsive people.
Post # 2
I had a similar situation. My maid of honor was going through some things and was kind of MIA. One of my other bridesmaids went above and beyond and I was really grateful. I bought her a bracelet and gave it to her separately a couple of days before the wedding. That way I had the opportunity to tell her how much I appreciated her and all she had done. I did it privately because I didn’t want to hurt my maid of honor’s feelings.
Post # 3
Not sure how a personality can be masculine or feminine?
That aside, the leather card wallet sounds sweet to me. Just remember that hair and makeup is not a “gift” to them — that’s you wanting them to look a certain way in photos. It shouldn’t play into the equation.
Post # 4
Whatever you decide, I’d definitely do it separately from your other bridesmaids/MOH as previous poster said.
Here’s a few ideas:
– bottle of wine
– treat her to lunch/dinner as a thank you for stepping up
– go to a concert together?
– attend a paint night together (where you paint/drink wine)
– personalized thank you note +gift card for her favourite store/restaurant/hobby
Post # 5
I had a very similar situation. My wedding is coming up soon and I took my friend out for a mani/pedi and dinner for her bday as an extra thank you (we usually do very small gifts, if we do gifts at all). I told her I wanted to treat her to a day of relaxing because I know she’s gone above and beyond for my big day when she didn’t need to 🙂 She really appreciated it and it was a nice way to honor her without being flashy infront of everyone else in the bridal party.
Post # 6
I made my Maid/Matron of Honor a scrapbook of pictures of us through the years because I know she loves having pictures in an album or scrapbook.
I also got her and I tickets for Taylor swift in august as an extra thank you (after the wedding and I didn’t give that to her in front of anyone)
I did give it to her with everyone else around but this is a different situation. Is there anything a little more personal you can think of?
Post # 7
This is a really great idea! Her birthday is exactly a week before my wedding. I’m not sure what to treat her to besides dinner and nice bottle of wine. We don’t really do gifts at all for birthdays. But she does love facials or skincare related things. This was quite helpful. I didn’t even think of her birthday as a way to thank her and celebrate her birthday separately from the other maids.