(Closed) what should I say to my BM?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
13292 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Well, honestly she may not have gotten the messages.  Fiance and I have this issue all the time when one of us texts and the message doesn’t go through. 

If she’s a Bridesmaid or Best Man, I would have extended the offer to go dress shopping to her, regardless if she was the most tom-boyish person I knew.  She is, after all, a BM! 

I would explain the situation with her dad (maybe she didn’t know how serious it was), and how busy you got all the sudden, apologize for not offering to bring her along to see your dress, and then try to move on. 

Post # 5
144 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m a bit confused too!! I don’t know why she would act that way! The best thing is to talk to her and even read out the messages you were sending her. Maybe there’s something going on in her life and she’s stressed? It’s definitely best to clear this all up now before it gets too far!

Post # 6
185 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

It seems like there was miscommunication during and after your trip.  This gets magnified when lots of things are done through text and facebook.

If it were me, I would try to be the bigger person and call her to talk.  Say something like “Sorry I didnt invite you dress shopping.  I really didnt mean to upset you.  I assumed you weren’t interested in going and didnt want to bother you with it.  But obviously I was wrong!  And I did text over my trip you you must not have received them?”  Then just drop it and move on.  Hopefully she snaps out of it and apologizes to you too for acting so strange.  And hopefully she asks about your Dad! 



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