- 6 years ago
A couple of weeks ago I had to fly out of state to visit my parents and pick up my wedding dress. My FH was with me and we were there 4 days. One of those days I spent 10 hours in a class for a work related certification. Another one of the days we took my dad into the emergency room in the middle of the night because his heart rate was 35. Another one of the days I got to pick up my dress and helped my mom shop for what she is going to wear to the wedding. As you can see, it was busy for us.
One of my bridesmaids lives about an hour away from my parents and is a nurse I used to work with. I texted her the first day we flew in and asked if she wanted to meet up at the local fair that was going on. She replied “hey are u in town?” I texted her back a couple more times over that weekend but never heard any more from her. She works a lot and travels a lot so I figured she was busy plus the weekend got out of hand with my dad’s emergency and everything. I posted a lot of updates on fb about my class, my dress, and my dad’s emergency and several people responded and wished my dad well, including this bridesmaid. So she knew what was going on.
I would have wanted to go Bridesmaid or Best Man dress shopping with her but she’s not a girly girl at all. In fact a few months ago it was like pulling teeth just to get her to look at a few dresses online that I had picked out to get her opinion and see if she wanted to wear any of them. I thought maybe she didn’t want to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man but she said she was happy to do it and had been one several times before. It turns out we wouldn’t have had time to go shopping anyways because of watching over my dad after he got discharged from the hospital.
After I flew back home I sent her a message saying I’m sorry I missed her and hope she’s doing well but didn’t hear back from her. A couple days later I sent pics of me at the bridal salon trying on the dress and updating the ideas about what the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress should be. Almost 2 weeks later I finally hear from her and she said she’s upset that she didn’t see me or hear from me while I was in town. I reminded her that I messaged her a few times and only got the one reply, but her most recent message is asking me to verify that I have her number correct and she said that I never sent her any messages or replied to her on fb. She also said she’s upset that I didn’t invite her to go see my dress, even though she’s never had an interest in the dress before.
I’m kind of at a loss now. I would have called her but once my dad’s emergency came up I was at his side the whole time. If his heart rate had dropped before my certification class I would have cancelled the class. I would have ditched the dress. His health came first. She’s a nurse and should understand that this is not something to be taken lightly. Please help me figure out what to say to her? She’s normally very much a tomboy and doesn’t act like this, is usually very evenheaded and logical so this is a surprise to me.