(Closed) What should I write on an Funeral card with flowers?

posted 6 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

In lieu of flowers means instead of. Honestly most flowers people send get thrown out or donate to nursing homes. 

Post # 4
1612 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@alyssars1:  In lieu of flowers means they would rather you make a donation to a charity (usually specified in the obituary) instead of flowers.  I usually keep flower cards pretty simple.  Something like “All my/our love” or “Deepest condolences”.

Post # 5
428 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Hmm…that means they don’t want flowers sent. Usually people request donations be made to different organizations in the deceased’s name. It’s odd to me that memorials be given to the family without specifying what the money will be used for.

When my grandmother passed away a couple of months ago, my aunt absolutely did. not. want. flowers. She said my grandmother deserved to have flowers in life and that they’re a waste now. People still sent a few flowers, so she donated those to the Alzheimer’s center where Gramma lived. Most everyone else donated money to her church.

Post # 6
605 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

That means that they’d rather received donations instead of flowers. While its more common to request donations be made to a specific organization, it’s not unheard of to have it directed at family. Often times when that happens, its because the family needs some help to cover medical bills, funeral costs, etc or in the case of a sudden loss, help the family with general expenses while they sort out the sudden lack of income. In my region, it’s not viewed as any different from requesting donations to a charity.

If you have already purchased the flowers or intend to send them anyway, my suggestion is to keep the card simple. I lost my dad less than a month ago. I don’t remember what a single card said. All I did was look for a name to address the thank you cards to. I appreciated the sentiment very much but everything was such a blur that I just didn’t register what any of them said.


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