(Closed) What should my guests do in between ceremony and reception?

posted 5 years ago in Venue
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Is there anything they can do on the grounds? Yard games or anything? You could do a trolley tour, but maybe recommend local sites and drink places that are close to your venue.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

This is called a gap. You need to host your entire wedding, not send people off to go drink at bars between the ceremony & reception.

I think the trolley is a good idea if you can’t have a cocktail hour. Or, find a venue that can accomodate all of your guests for all parts of your wedding.

Also 1.5 hours to flip a room for 100? How many people are doing this, I think that’s quite a long time, unless there’s some very detailed ‘tablescaping’ going on.

What are you and Fiance planning on doing during your gap? 

 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

I would look into having a hosted cocktail hour at one of the nearby bars, if one is walking distance away. 1.5 hours of open bar might be cheaper than a trolley. 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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jnbwedding:  That seems really odd to me. I’ve heard of a gap between church and evening reception but never at the same venue. I think the trolly tour is the way to go. Otherwise, people will be confused and stand around the venue for that time.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think you have to find some way to host a cocktail hour – sorry.  That’s not enough time to really go anywhere, and while the trolley tours in Savannah are really fun, I would NOT want to do that while dressed up.  It can be hot and humid as hell there, and a lot of the fun of the tours is getting off and looking at stuff, which you wouldn’t really have time for.

Do NOT ask people to go off on their own, partially because it’s weird, and partially because they won’t be back when you want them to be.  Also, if they go eat, they won’t be hungry for your reception.

It sounds like you made a poor choice of venue.  Are you saying they could accommodate a cocktail hour if you had fewer guests?  If so, then invite fewer guests.  If you are set on inviting a higher number of guests, then you need to find a venue where you can host appropriately.  I think option one is probably your best choice at this point.

All that being said, I’m sure you won’t take any of my advice!  People usually come on here asking for opinions when what they really want is other people to justify their bad decisions.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Is there an outside area where you can get jugs and make your own mixed drinks and have some lawn games, cornhole or jenga? Large gaps are my pet peeve at a wedding and if there isnt any drinks. I would be bummed.  I feel like the cocktail hour is the hour where you can meet a few other people and arent stuck with only those at your table.  

 

Would this trolley have booze on it? maybe yes to that but otherwise ehh. i wouldnt be super stoked to go ride around in a trolley in my cocktail attire. What have other brides done? Its really strange that your venue doesnt have another space to accomidate guests while they flip.. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

Wow, some people are being very rude. Obviously you didn’t choose to have this situation, and you’re trying to handle it as well as you can. If you’re close to downtown, could you coordinate an oil/vinegar/liquer tasting at one of the shops? Or perhaps coordinate an ice cream truck/lawn games outside of your venue or at one of the beautiful nearby parks? 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

You could send them to drink diet Coke at a Burger King next to the railroad tracks as we were recently.

And if you want to make the experience exactly the same as ours, make sure that it’s 97 degrees, too.

Unforgettable? For sure.

WhaI’d prefer in a situation like yours would just be a seat and a cool drink, in this case alcohol optional, becaus I’d rather save myself for chilled champagne.

Post # 10
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Helper bee

Is there an alternative at your venue to having both the ceremony and reception in the same room? We went to a wedding that did not have a cocktail hour at all. The ceremony was on the lawn and then straight after we went inside for the reception. That may be preferable for your guests than having an hour and a half to kill somewhere.

I don’t think we would do the trolley, but we would probably go to a nearby bar if we had no other alternative. We did have to do this once, but I will be honest- there were a lot of complaints muttered by the guests about the expensive cocktails at the only bar nearby. Maybe you could talk to a local bar that has an upstairs or back room and organize something for your guests and point them in that direction after the ceremony? A lot of bars would offer discounts if you guarantee a certain number, and it sounds like you would have a lot of people.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

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tjacob2014:  +1 . 

 

You don’t want your guests to have responsibilities that day, as snobby as that sounds. As a  wedding guest x100 (it feels like), I dont want to have to plan anything that day, just follow what the host/hostess has planned for me and the rest of the guests. That’s part of the fun of a wedding, seeing what was planned. Pick a cool bar, see if the bar tender can make two specialty drinks (a bride and groom drink, you guys can decide what they are) so the event doesnt feel detached from the wedding, get some appetizers, and there you go. Yes, it’s going to cost more than adding a cocktail hour at the reception, but it’s really the only way to go in my opinion

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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liaeona:  No one is being rude.  And what on earth are you talking about – she obviously DID choose this exact situation!  Because she’s either inviting more people than her venue can accommodate, or choosing a venue that’s too small – whichever way you want to look at it.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

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Kikibear:  I see what you’re saying, and that’s fair, I just meant that she wasn’t intentionally building in a gap and she’s obviously trying to rectify it. She sees that it’s a problem and is looking for advice. I feel like sometimes people use threads like these to take out their own past frustrations on anybody asking for advice about a similar situation. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

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liaeona:  What are you talking about? She chose her venue! This is her problem, not her guests–they didn’t choose it!

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